Wheretoturn
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My sons father & I broke up during my pregnancy. He moved in former girlfriend. At 8 months pregnant, gf contacted me accusing me of still "dealing with" the dad. After some heated discussion, gf asked me to take my baby & go away so that they can be happy. I took this as a threat & told gf to stay away from baby when born, she agreed. By the time my son was 2 months old, his father decided he wanted his son to be with gf regardless of what either of us wanted. I then got a No Contact order against gf as a threat to baby. In addition, dad signed waiver giving me sole custody at birth. Father saw son on only 5 occasions over a 6 month period-his choice-no interference from me. I actually begged him to spend time with son. Baby spent a day with father at about 6 months old & came home with a cough so bad he was vomiting. Dr initially thought it was whooping cough & ordered xrays. Luckily not, just really bad cold & asthma. I found out later (on facebook) that court order was violated & gf was with my son that day & they spent the day playing in water-hence the cold. I advised dad at that time that I would only agree to supervised visitation at that point. I found out that he had already filed for visitation (fyi-he had never been denied). I had previously filed for child support. When he found this out, he changed visitation to joint custody. Court is ignoring No Contact order & him CHOOSING not to have custody. I had to pay $206 just to be allowed in courtroom & have now been court ordered to pay another $1125 out of $1500 for mandatory court appointed litigator. Father does not help financially & I simply dont have the money. Single mom of 2. It seems as if, if I can't come up with this money, I have to send my now 7 month old baby to gf who does not want him around! What can I do? Where to turn?