In the same boat
Sorry to hijack your thread, but I may have some news to post here soon about your situation. I'm also in a similar situation only I was already out of the relationship for about 3 months when my ex contacted me to tell me she was expecting a child and claimed I was the father. I have been skeptical about being the father from the very beginning for various justifiable reasons, but I had decided to stay onboard to see it through in the event I did turn out to be the father. I have remained in constant contact with her often meeting up with her to do things together. Early on, she insisted that she did not want me to go with her to any of the prenatal appointments even though I made it clear that I really wanted to, but she has been very bad about getting back to me with regular updates after the visits. She even claimed that she did not want any financial support from me when the child is born. In speaking with female friends and family members who have been in similar situations, they all thought it was odd that she was behaving in this matter when I was showing quite clearly that I wanted to be a part of this.
She was due in the middle of January, and a few months before, I discussed with her what was going to happen when he (she knew was having a boy by this time) was born regarding my rights. She coldly admitted that she had no intentions of putting me on the birth certificate as the father, he would not be given my last name, and that she would contact me when she was already home with the baby - not when she went into labor or even when she was in the hospital! I couldn't believe what I was hearing. When I demanded to know why she was treating me like this, she claimed that she just didn't feel that her child needed a father, and she was doing what was best for the child. I think she was holding a number of petty things against me like the fact that we were no longer in a relationship and I was the one who had broke it off. She also has deep-rooted father-figure issues because she did not have a constant father-figure in her life, and I honestly believe that she thinks I won't be around long even though I say I will be and is using this against me. I grew up without a father most of my life, and I have no intentions of abandoning this child.
The baby was born a few days ago on February 15th. She did not contact me when she was admitted into the hospital the day before even though she had ample time and opportunity to contact me. I finally got ahold of her mother the next day who had her call me. She insisted that I could not see the baby until she was released from the hospital, which was today. I have tried to contact her today, but there has been no response. I am getting the feeling she may not allow me to see the baby.
I have decided to submit an application with Child Support Services to open a case against myself and hire a lawyer if the results of the paternity test are positive. I have no other recourse. I will update your thread with any new info I might have that will help you with your situation.
