O.K. I never married my daughters father J, but he is on the darn birth certificate, my daughter A has his last name. there is no paternity established. no court order for child support/visitation. he left me when i was 2 months pregnant. He hasnt paid for child support. He isn't in A's life consistently, he Started visiting her when she was 5. he never cared to visit her until he got a girlfriend D. She is pushing him to get A to stay over her fathers home for spring break. 1) he is a horrible person he doesn't respect the way i am raising my daughter. 2) he disrespects me. I've let her go with him for two weeks and she came back confused and emotionally damaged. I dont want to have to put my daughter through this emotional roller coaster. I think if he wants A in his life he needs to make the effort to be in her life NOT the other way around. (we live in Nevada he lives in CA. A is 7 years old now.) NOW, My husband loves my daughter and he doesn't want her father allowed to take her away or visit whenever he's feeling a guilt trip. She needs to stay stable. How can my husband adopt my daughter without her fathers consent?