klynnchris11
New Member
Hello All. My ex and I have 2 daughters 5 & 6. She has full Physical custody all year, Legal during school year, and I have Full Legal in Summer (weird I know). Our divorce has been final for goin on 2 years now, and she has made my life a living hell. I divorced her, not my children, and she tries her best to limit the allotted time I have been given. It is amazing to me that she was awarded custody (history of mental issues), but that is a whole other story. My parenting time is T and TH from after school (or 5 p.m.) till 730 p.m., and every other weekend. In the past few months I have been picking the children up directly from school 355. This is 1. It gives me an extra hour and 5 minutes to spend with my girls, as well as 2. stay abreast of what is going on with school work etc. They had been instructed by their mother previously to not take their backpacks to my house. She also instructed the neighbors when watching them to not "allow" me to see them. In February of this year I got engaged to my gf, and moved in with her and her son at her home which I am leasing with intent to buy. The home is only 7 miles further from where are previous home was. Much bigger, huge yard, horses...etc. My ex mind you is on bf #3 since the divorce, and also whohas cohabilted with them all as well. New BF has officially moved in. He is also only 22 and she is 30. Neither of them work, she receives state aid and $700 p/mth child support. It was $1000 but it was finally lessend after having to take her back to F.O.C. because she was receiving an extra $300 a/mth as a daycare supplement. Both girls were and are in school FT...And once again she does not work. My fiance found out that her new BF was just arraigned, and convicted of a DUI. He has been the primary driver when picking the children up mind you. There was also a provision put in the divorce decree that stated that no alcohol shall be consumed by either parents 24hrs. prior to or during parenting time. I know she has not followed this rule, although it was her who had it put in place. He was arrested on a weekend that would have been her weekend as well. I have requested arrest record via FOIA, but was denied. The new BF also up until 2 weeks ago when he legally changed his address to hers, shared the same address as his father who is a Registered Sex Offender, and has been since 1986. He has had 5 convictions as recently as 2006.
On the day of the bf's plea, I went to see what it was exactly he was charged with, because up until that point we new he had been arrested, but wasn't aware of what (concerned for my kids). My ex walked in and her jaw dropped. I sat and listened and swung by F.O.C. to grab a form for a change of custody on teh way home. She must have done the same, because I was served by her yesterday that she is looking at modifying my parenting time. She is saying that the schedule of me picking up the children directly from school is detrimental to their well being. Also recomended that I take counseling, because according to her I still have issues with her "moving on" and thats whay I showed up at court. I have a great support structure with my fiance. When we have the children we are a family unit. All of us. My daughters do not receive that while in their mothers care. I hear about how mom doesn't pay any attention to them cause she is always kissing her new bf..etc.
She is also into holistic meds and refuses standard medical care for our children (innoculations etc...) She used some "oil" recently on our youngest to rid her of a cough and ended up causing severe chemical burns to her forhead.
What are my actions of recourse. If I file my motion will it look like a tit for tat? Besides what she brought up in the motion, there are numerous other factors I want to be looked at. SO should I file one as well stating what I want to happen? I'm so confused. I've been beat down by the system before, but I refuse to let her try to weasel me out of the picture. Any help, suggestiuons etc..woyld be greatly appreciated.
Thank you..
On the day of the bf's plea, I went to see what it was exactly he was charged with, because up until that point we new he had been arrested, but wasn't aware of what (concerned for my kids). My ex walked in and her jaw dropped. I sat and listened and swung by F.O.C. to grab a form for a change of custody on teh way home. She must have done the same, because I was served by her yesterday that she is looking at modifying my parenting time. She is saying that the schedule of me picking up the children directly from school is detrimental to their well being. Also recomended that I take counseling, because according to her I still have issues with her "moving on" and thats whay I showed up at court. I have a great support structure with my fiance. When we have the children we are a family unit. All of us. My daughters do not receive that while in their mothers care. I hear about how mom doesn't pay any attention to them cause she is always kissing her new bf..etc.
She is also into holistic meds and refuses standard medical care for our children (innoculations etc...) She used some "oil" recently on our youngest to rid her of a cough and ended up causing severe chemical burns to her forhead.
What are my actions of recourse. If I file my motion will it look like a tit for tat? Besides what she brought up in the motion, there are numerous other factors I want to be looked at. SO should I file one as well stating what I want to happen? I'm so confused. I've been beat down by the system before, but I refuse to let her try to weasel me out of the picture. Any help, suggestiuons etc..woyld be greatly appreciated.
Thank you..