Hello I just want some advice with the situation I'm in. I just came back from a deployment. I was in Iraq from May -09 to May-10 The day after I came home from my deployment, my wife confronted me about a affair she had while I was in Iraq. She also told me she did NOT use protection. She also told me the affair was this past March. She had a ultrasound done and at the time of the ultrasound the Doctor said she was 10 weeks 5 days pregnant. Plus the time of conception was pinned to March 10th to March 17th I was back in Iraq at that time!!! Now with her being in her first trimester the accuracy of conception is pretty accurate vs. if she were to be in her second or third trimester. After much thought of what to do in this situation I forgave her for committing adultery. But after reviewing EVERYTHING I'm 100% convinced along with her that this is not my baby. Here is why I think this is not my baby:
1-I came home in Feb for military leave. On the last 5 days of my leave she was menstruating.
2-She had her affair about two weeks after I had gone back to Iraq. May I say again that it was unprotected.
3-The ultrasound predicted her conception date was at or around the same time of her affair. March 10-17th
With all of this I decided I could not go on with the marriage. The bottom line was I could not see myself raising an OM baby. My wife agreed with me on divorcing. I'm torn with all this, and I'm having a hard time letting go. Plus being in Iraq for the past year dealing with all the stress of trying to stay alive I would of never thought this would ever happen to me. I'm all alone in my house every day and have no one to talk to about my situation. My question is: did I do the right thing by divorcing now rather waiting till the child was born?? I need some help. An expert opinion on this matter would help. Thanks.
1-I came home in Feb for military leave. On the last 5 days of my leave she was menstruating.
2-She had her affair about two weeks after I had gone back to Iraq. May I say again that it was unprotected.
3-The ultrasound predicted her conception date was at or around the same time of her affair. March 10-17th
With all of this I decided I could not go on with the marriage. The bottom line was I could not see myself raising an OM baby. My wife agreed with me on divorcing. I'm torn with all this, and I'm having a hard time letting go. Plus being in Iraq for the past year dealing with all the stress of trying to stay alive I would of never thought this would ever happen to me. I'm all alone in my house every day and have no one to talk to about my situation. My question is: did I do the right thing by divorcing now rather waiting till the child was born?? I need some help. An expert opinion on this matter would help. Thanks.