i have a 4 year old daughter with my ex. I was not in her life on a regular basis for the first three years. I moved out of state when she was 6 months old and did not have a lot of contact with her. there were phone calls few and far in between because there was never any agreement with my ex. we would always end up fighting over the phone and i just chose not to do that. i did want to be in my daughter's life, but felt there was nothing i can do because her mother would not let me see her and my daughter was too young to talk to me. i returned to california last year and started to see my daughter whenever her mother had time which was never. i would call her to make arrangements to see our daughter, but she said it always had to be on their time, and not mine. dealing with my daughter's mother has always been difficult. she has always resented me for leaving her. i was young at the time and did not always think about consequences for my actions. i have to pay court ordered child support which i am not current on. after months of calling my daughter's mother and leaving messages and being ignored and being called a loser, i finally got some advice and took her to court. i was granted visitation every saturday for three hours for two months, after that we would return to court and work something else out. i only got short visitation due to lack of relationship with my daughter. i used my visitation and on the 7th visitation day, my daughter did not want to see me. when i went to pick her up, she ran to the closet and hid from me and said she wanted her mother. so i left, hurt and ashamed. the week before, i talked to her mother, she asked me if i wanted to sign over my parental rights, i told her i would never do that. but now after that episode with my daughter, i'm thinking that i should. it is too painful to talk with her mother, and after all, i did not help raise our daughter anyway, and she does not want to see me. do i have a chance of getting the judge to agree with me in giving up my parental rights without a stepparent involved?