I have sole legal custody of my 20 month old son. His father was given visitation every other weekend but I was ordered to drop off and pick up my son at a public location near his fathers residence which is a 45 minute drive for me each way. For about a month he showed up on time and if he was running late he would let me know. All of a sudden (coincidentally after they started collecting child support from him) he stopped showing up and did not contact me to even let me know he wasnt going to come. He was just a "NO SHOW" he has missed his last 2 visitations and the last time he had him he didnt even keep him the entire weekend.
This weekend is his weekend and I'm pretty sure he's not going to show up again. Every other weekend I have to leave my job an hour earlier so I can pick up my son from daycare and fight traffic and a 45 minute drive so I can get to the drop off spot by 6pm. (I always arrive before 6pm) The first time he didnt show I waited for 30 minutes and texted him to find out what was going on. He NEVER responded. The second time I again waited 30 minutes and had a friend go with me just so I had another witness. He didnt show or call.
My question is how many times can he be a "NO SHOW" before I can stop wasting my time and gas driving there without getting in trouble with the court order? I cant even make plans because I do not know what he is going to do. Do I need to continue to show up and wait or just keep record of it and take him back to court for modification? (which can take up to 2 months to get a court date because its back logged) If this had been a case where he was the one that had to pick up our son from me then this would not be such a big deal but like I said I'm responsible for dropping our son off and picking him up where he lives.
*note* just to let you know at first I thought something may be wrong or maybe he moved and quit his job but I have already talked to friends that work where he does and they have let me know that he does in fact still work there.
This weekend is his weekend and I'm pretty sure he's not going to show up again. Every other weekend I have to leave my job an hour earlier so I can pick up my son from daycare and fight traffic and a 45 minute drive so I can get to the drop off spot by 6pm. (I always arrive before 6pm) The first time he didnt show I waited for 30 minutes and texted him to find out what was going on. He NEVER responded. The second time I again waited 30 minutes and had a friend go with me just so I had another witness. He didnt show or call.
My question is how many times can he be a "NO SHOW" before I can stop wasting my time and gas driving there without getting in trouble with the court order? I cant even make plans because I do not know what he is going to do. Do I need to continue to show up and wait or just keep record of it and take him back to court for modification? (which can take up to 2 months to get a court date because its back logged) If this had been a case where he was the one that had to pick up our son from me then this would not be such a big deal but like I said I'm responsible for dropping our son off and picking him up where he lives.
*note* just to let you know at first I thought something may be wrong or maybe he moved and quit his job but I have already talked to friends that work where he does and they have let me know that he does in fact still work there.