I'm a 20 year old single mother who has a beautiful 1 ½ year old daughter. My ex (who is 28) and who is the father of my daughter is making my life a complete hell. We broke up 9 months ago when I realized that he was no help to me & my daughter and that he was in no way trying to make an effort to do anything to help me raise our daughter.
Here's a little piece of info about myself:
I am currently a junior in college, I work full time as an executive assistant for a well known corporation (SYMS, FILENE'S BASEMENT & CO-BRANDED FBSY STORES). I have never been involved with the law or in any type of trouble. I do my best to provide my child (who has Crohn's disease) with everything a child with two parents has, if not more.
BUT , I still reside in my parent's home on the ground level
( Which is basically like having my own apartment because I pay rent, my own gas & electric and provide all groceries, toiletries, clothing & personal items for myself and my child.
Here's a little piece of info about my daughters father:
His highest level of education is the 10th grade, he is un-employed and has been un-employed all of his life. He has no stable place of residence and has had many run-ins with the law. He has a VERY extensive history of violence domestic and drug& alcohol abuse. Has been incarcerated numerous times & this last arrest was for a high speed car chase & assaulting law enforcement officers. In the past he has been physical with me and has even sent me death threats. As a result (I have a (FRO- FINAL RESTRAINING ORDER) against him where he is supposed to have no contact with myself or our daughter unless instructed by court order which has not been ordered as of yet.
Now about my daughter, she is a beautiful, bright and loving child. She has battled digestive issues from birth and was recently classified as having Crohn's disease. In the past I have tried many efforts to get her father involved in her life. I set up visitation dates, invited him to doctors appointments, birthday parties, and family portraits and never has he complied with anything. When my daughter was exactly a year old the courts awarded my daughters father supervised visitation (he took me to court for joint custody & was denied but they granted him supervised parenting time). During the 3month visitation period he only showed up 2 times and the report says he was un-attentive to her needs, was quiet but distracted & at times seemed frustrated. When we went to court to determine if the visitations should continue, he told the judge he did not want anymore visitations because he was going to comply with the visitation schedule that I had set up for him… but of course he didn't comply & then I had to get the FRO because of things he was doing to me, so now he has no visitation and is threatening to take me to court again for joint custody (meanwhile he is not supposed to be contacting me because of my FRO but he is having his brother call me and then pass him the phone) can I get him arrested for this?
However as you probably can tell, my daughters father wants nothing to do with her and is only making an effort to file for custody & such matters because he is hoping it causes problems with my job because he knows all these court process take up an extensive amount of time and I have to take off from work which is a serious problem with my job because I already take much time off to deal with my daughters health issues. Can I get sole legal & physical custody to ensure decisions made concerning my daughter's health issues are in her best interest and not just out of spite because her father is trying to get back at me.
Keep in mind a lot of the procedures my daughter has to undergo require the consent & signatures of the child parents & since I am my daughter only active parent I sometimes I have to provide my daughters doctors with an extensive amount of history to prove her father is not involved and that there is no possible way to get him to consent and that it is ok for them to go ahead with their surgical procedures
(this has become embarrassing at times, to have to tell doctors my daughter has no father)
Here's a little piece of info about myself:
I am currently a junior in college, I work full time as an executive assistant for a well known corporation (SYMS, FILENE'S BASEMENT & CO-BRANDED FBSY STORES). I have never been involved with the law or in any type of trouble. I do my best to provide my child (who has Crohn's disease) with everything a child with two parents has, if not more.
BUT , I still reside in my parent's home on the ground level
( Which is basically like having my own apartment because I pay rent, my own gas & electric and provide all groceries, toiletries, clothing & personal items for myself and my child.
Here's a little piece of info about my daughters father:
His highest level of education is the 10th grade, he is un-employed and has been un-employed all of his life. He has no stable place of residence and has had many run-ins with the law. He has a VERY extensive history of violence domestic and drug& alcohol abuse. Has been incarcerated numerous times & this last arrest was for a high speed car chase & assaulting law enforcement officers. In the past he has been physical with me and has even sent me death threats. As a result (I have a (FRO- FINAL RESTRAINING ORDER) against him where he is supposed to have no contact with myself or our daughter unless instructed by court order which has not been ordered as of yet.
Now about my daughter, she is a beautiful, bright and loving child. She has battled digestive issues from birth and was recently classified as having Crohn's disease. In the past I have tried many efforts to get her father involved in her life. I set up visitation dates, invited him to doctors appointments, birthday parties, and family portraits and never has he complied with anything. When my daughter was exactly a year old the courts awarded my daughters father supervised visitation (he took me to court for joint custody & was denied but they granted him supervised parenting time). During the 3month visitation period he only showed up 2 times and the report says he was un-attentive to her needs, was quiet but distracted & at times seemed frustrated. When we went to court to determine if the visitations should continue, he told the judge he did not want anymore visitations because he was going to comply with the visitation schedule that I had set up for him… but of course he didn't comply & then I had to get the FRO because of things he was doing to me, so now he has no visitation and is threatening to take me to court again for joint custody (meanwhile he is not supposed to be contacting me because of my FRO but he is having his brother call me and then pass him the phone) can I get him arrested for this?
However as you probably can tell, my daughters father wants nothing to do with her and is only making an effort to file for custody & such matters because he is hoping it causes problems with my job because he knows all these court process take up an extensive amount of time and I have to take off from work which is a serious problem with my job because I already take much time off to deal with my daughters health issues. Can I get sole legal & physical custody to ensure decisions made concerning my daughter's health issues are in her best interest and not just out of spite because her father is trying to get back at me.
Keep in mind a lot of the procedures my daughter has to undergo require the consent & signatures of the child parents & since I am my daughter only active parent I sometimes I have to provide my daughters doctors with an extensive amount of history to prove her father is not involved and that there is no possible way to get him to consent and that it is ok for them to go ahead with their surgical procedures
(this has become embarrassing at times, to have to tell doctors my daughter has no father)
