ConcernedSister
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My sister has been trying to work out her marriage with her husband for over a year now. She has been asking him to go to marriage counseling, but he refuses. She had a feeling he was having an affair and she was telling him that if he confesses, stops cheating, and never talks to the other woman again that she will forgive him and they can move on with their marriage. He finally confessed to his affair on 9/2/10, stated it was over now, they are just friends, but he will continue to talk to her; the woman is his ex-stepmother. She went to leave from the stepmother's house, when she confronted them, and her husband grabbed her and would not let her leave, leaving bruises on her arms. Finally they left together to take her home, on the way home, my brother-in law threatened to take her and leave her where no one would ever find her again, all she said was tell my children I love them. He then drove my sister back to the stepmother's house, not taking my sister home, and then just got out of the truck and then told her to just go home, he needed time with his brothers and sisters to talk about the situation to smooth things over with them; not his children or wife. He never spends time with his older two children, just the youngest one; they have three children all together. My question to you would be what can my sister do in this situation? She does not work; she is a full time student, going for her masters in criminal justice, while he is the sole provider. If she kicks him out, will she get any compensation in the divorce and can she sue the stepmother for mental anguish and ruining her home life by taking her husband and father away from his children? What are her options? What would the costs be to hire a lawyer in the divorce in Cherry Creek, New York? Can she get full custody of her children with no visitation rights on his part, but he still pays child support because he also smokes marijuana? Can she get a restraining order against the stepmother to stay away from her children, because she not only slept with one stepson, but also slept with another stepson when he was 16 years of age? My sister feels that the stepmother is a danger to her children.