My boyfriend's court order for visitation is on the mother's terms. but she does not like me so if she thinks that i am going to show up with him, she turns around and tells him he can not see his son. Can she tell him it is okay to see him and then turn around just because of me? She went to court originally and lied to the judge that we did not have the stuff to take care of the child, but we had polaroids to prove that it was all in our house. On top of this he is paying his child support but only gets to see his son if his mom takes him out there. she does not tell the child anything about his father and told him not to sign his birthday card dad, because he doesn't know who his dad is, is that fair to the child?