Thank you for your reply Sir, I appreciate it, I'm a service member, I am station here in Fairbanks AK, my son is in Guam with his mother, I have been sending her money and paying for all my son's expenses, that includes his tuition fees to a private school, I send her $1000 every month and more when she tells me that my son need to pay something or buy something, basically I pay for all my son's expenses. She filed a Child support here in AK, by the way she is working also. Honestly Sir I think she's using my work to get more from me, one time she sent a letter to my unit saying, " he is not giving us any money, ( comma) the money the he is sending us is not enough" she mess up herself with his letter and so my unit ignored her and have me filed a divorced because of that and at that time me and my son are together, she just borrowed my son from me and never returned him, my divorce paper has a joint custody and I placed her as a primary custody due to the reason that I want her to take care of my son whenever I go abroad for dep...Is there any information or advice that you can help me Sir? I appreciate everything that you will give me...thank you.
WOW. You have a mess, airman. Okay, let's try to sort this.
You have filed for divorce, correct?
What is the status of the divorce?
Pursuant to the divorce, did the judge order temporary child support?
Is there a temporary custody order?
Just so you know, ANY and ALL money you give her without a court order will one day be viewed as a gift.
So, let's just say you don't get the divorce finalized until July of 2014.
Say you've been gifting her $1,000 a month for the last 15 months.
She can file for back child support from the day she TOOK (or absconded) with the child back to Guam. That was a very big mistake, by the way.
Say she claims she took the child 12 months ago. Assume for discussion purposes, that the child support table says the custodial parent is entitled to $1,500 a month.
Well, the court will look at that and order YOU (non-custodial parent) to pay 12 times $1,500, or $18,000 in back support, plus $1,500 a month going forward; and they'll do that by allotment.
She and the kid are entitled to dependent ID cards, health care, etc...
I suggest you speak with JAG, and a civilian lawyer. Get this sorted, sooner, rather than later.
The issue with Guam or Alaska having jurisdiction over the kid needs to get sorted, too.
Unless you're cool with the kid being in Guam.
Good luck...