Shanghai1930s
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I'm sorry I'm Chinese and English is my third language, so please forgive me for my not perfect grammars.
Question about postnuptial in my situation: Both me and my husband are U.S citizenship, live in California, and married. No children.
Backgorund: As short as I can sum it tup, I grow up in my whole childhood seeing my parents unhappy marriage. Seeing my father never love my mother, he even admit it himself that the reason why he stay married to my mother is because he doesn't want HALF of his financial/bank accounts, assets, retirement/pension go to my mom if divorce.
I grow up sworn that I will never put myself I will never put myself in this situation where the man I married to stay married to me solely because he doesn't want Half of his everything "financially" will go to if divorce.
I know this fear is stem from my childhood, it a "Me" problem.
But in order for me to be 100% fully happy and have the peace of mind in my marriage that my husband stay married to me is because he truely still loves me, and not because he afraid he will lost half his bank accounts, assets, retirement to me if we divorce. I want and need a "postnuptial".
I want to sign a postnuptial state that if our marriage end in divorce, I'm willingly to walk out EMTPY HANDED. I will NOT take half of my husband 500K in his Cash liquid savings, or his six-figures in his Retirement savings, or his assets, or his pension whatever. He does make decent income, he make six-figures.
From what I understand is the law can't force me, if me the--the "wife" willingly and chose to walk out EMTPY HANDED, I refuse to drag my husband to court to fight for what me--the wife entitle to if we divorce. There no laws that say I have to drag him to court to fight for half his money/assets righ? I can just sign the divorce papers and be done with. Correct?
But I still want to get a postnuptial on this, to have it in paper that this is what I will do if divorce.
From what I know a postnuptial is an agreement a couple agree to what happen if the marriage ends in divorce right? I just not sure if I can get a posnuptial with the content like this. Yes, I know it silly. I'm sorry for it not making much sense. But it something that I need in order for me to feel secure. I know it stem from my childhood, it a "Me" problem. But I need this in order for me to feel secure and 100% happy in my marriage.
Thank you Mr./Mrs. for your help answer my question.
Question about postnuptial in my situation: Both me and my husband are U.S citizenship, live in California, and married. No children.
Backgorund: As short as I can sum it tup, I grow up in my whole childhood seeing my parents unhappy marriage. Seeing my father never love my mother, he even admit it himself that the reason why he stay married to my mother is because he doesn't want HALF of his financial/bank accounts, assets, retirement/pension go to my mom if divorce.
I grow up sworn that I will never put myself I will never put myself in this situation where the man I married to stay married to me solely because he doesn't want Half of his everything "financially" will go to if divorce.
I know this fear is stem from my childhood, it a "Me" problem.
But in order for me to be 100% fully happy and have the peace of mind in my marriage that my husband stay married to me is because he truely still loves me, and not because he afraid he will lost half his bank accounts, assets, retirement to me if we divorce. I want and need a "postnuptial".
I want to sign a postnuptial state that if our marriage end in divorce, I'm willingly to walk out EMTPY HANDED. I will NOT take half of my husband 500K in his Cash liquid savings, or his six-figures in his Retirement savings, or his assets, or his pension whatever. He does make decent income, he make six-figures.
From what I understand is the law can't force me, if me the--the "wife" willingly and chose to walk out EMTPY HANDED, I refuse to drag my husband to court to fight for what me--the wife entitle to if we divorce. There no laws that say I have to drag him to court to fight for half his money/assets righ? I can just sign the divorce papers and be done with. Correct?
But I still want to get a postnuptial on this, to have it in paper that this is what I will do if divorce.
From what I know a postnuptial is an agreement a couple agree to what happen if the marriage ends in divorce right? I just not sure if I can get a posnuptial with the content like this. Yes, I know it silly. I'm sorry for it not making much sense. But it something that I need in order for me to feel secure. I know it stem from my childhood, it a "Me" problem. But I need this in order for me to feel secure and 100% happy in my marriage.
Thank you Mr./Mrs. for your help answer my question.