Wife filed for divorce.
We've been married 13 years, both of our second marriage. This wasn't an arranged marriage, but culturally speaking we don't do the whole dating thing, so we marry quick. Wife married to help her take care of her kids that she failed to do so and for money. Years later, find out wife is a mental mess and the biggest con and fraud you'll meet.
-Wife told me she was a widow. Last year at her daughter's marriage I met her ex husband (talk about a surprise). He tells me the day he flunked med school she grabbed her stuff and their kids and left to come to the USA. I don't think she was even formally divorced. And the following I kind of suspected but he confirmed: she made up a b/s abuse story to get asylum in the U.S. And blackmailed him to get her a fake birth certificate. So I got a storage unit to keep her things when we married and I had a bachelor pad and before I bought my house. Didn't realize she still had the storage unit till she made me drop her off at it so she could get a form for her taxes two years ago. Storage unit is empty except a safe. I'm almost positive this fake birth certificate is here.
Not sure if immigration cares, she's been an US citizen for more than a decade now.
-I retired this year, but my income was $400k, hers is $30k or so (who knows she's secretive about everything). I'm definitely not giving her 50% of that. She didn't help me get my job, I was working for 30 years before I met her. In fact it's the opposite, I got her a job at my clinic and the boss, although rude, did tell me bluntly "she's only here because she's your wife".
-My first wife, again culturally more/less an arranged marriage...we never argued but were two different people and separated without lawyers, I've given her her fair share. I was the workaholic dad that lived at the hospital while neglecting my parental roles and she raised the kids. It wasn't till my second marriage till I realized what sacrifice my first wife made, even though I don't owe her anything anymore, I kind of anonymously send her money till this day by giving my biological kids money and telling them to give it to their mom. Current wife saw me send money to my kids and this is a reason she's divorcing.
-Current wife has 2 kids who are both a mess. The son has no life and she forces him to study 24x7. He's suicidal because of her. Left the house on this 18th bday. I talk to him a little but he hasn't talked to his mom since the day he left. The girl talks to the mom, but she's a mental mess too and has anger issues. Basically what I'm saying is I'm the one that raised her kids, not her, she failed.
-Wife actually moved to a separate guest room in my home about 6 years ago, when I refused to buy the daughter a car for college or pay for her college. In fact she stopped cooking and I do the cooking and she stopped cleaning and I had to hire a cleaner. She bought a lock on the door but forgot to lock it one day, and I go in to find out she actually sleeps in the closet, and tin foil all over the walls.....
-I pay for everything. The house, cars, food, bills etc I pay for 100%, she's never paid for anything. In fact for several years I've been paying my wife allowance, which I stopped when I was retiring. She feels like this is her right and another reason she wants a divorce.
-More on the con thing, she set her daughter up with a doctor, but knew the guy would run away with her daughter's anger issues, so essentially she's been pretending to be her daughter and talked to this guy online for months. The guy met the daughter 2(?) times before marrying (again, culture thing). Didn't take long for the guy to find out the daughter is a mess and he filed for a divorce two months after marriage. I refused to pay for her daughter's attorney's fees, daughter literally told me if I didn't she'd get her mom to divorce me.
-Noticing I'm missing bank statements. First one or two I dismiss as possibly being lost in the mail, but after a few it gets odd. Then I get a call from my manager at my bank who knows me personally, who tells me some women is calling pretending to be me and asking about recent transfers. This is a personally account not a joint account. Basically the wife finds out I've been giving money to my biological kids, charities etc (basically not her) and she files for a divorce.
As far as why I didn't divorce....it was ok the first few years. Even when she moved to a spare room, she kept to herself and I figured it'd be cheaper to hire a cleaner, buy grocery's for two, keep a spare line on my cell phone bill, etc then it'd be to divorce. Also some of the things like her not being a widow , digging through my personal bank accounts, etc., I just found out recently.
