I am at a complete loss. What seems like a simple act of good faith has become not only confusing but too complicated for words.
I want to know how to sign off on a child support order. I am the custodial parent and I moved two states away and therefore there is very limited time for my daughter and her father to visit physically.
We accomodate that with unlimited phone and virtual visitation through web cams but as we all know that is just not enough. I obviously can't afford to travel back and forth every other weekend and he works every weekend anyway.
We both are in complete agreement she is doing far to well here to move back to Wisconsin and has grown as a person with the smaller classes and closer knit community she is now in and has made some really close friends.
My point (sorry) is I want to sign off on the child support order mainly because I see him struggling to survive because he had another child after our daughter and pays child support faithfully on both children but I can see it is wearing on him financially.
My daughter is almost 17 and I am quite capable of managing our finances without the child support as I have not rent or utility expenses where I live with my fiance and I think it only right that he be given the chance to have some money to live on and not have to wait another year and a half to do so.
I know I am one of the very rare custodial parents that doesn't go for the jugular or take every cent the poor guy ever makes out of spite and vengence.
Our order is in Wisconsin and we moved 2 years ago. Not sure if you need to know that but just in case it is useful.
How do I do this legally and not make it more complicated than it apparently already is. I just want to send a notarized letter to the child support agency itself saying I don't want the money anymore and cancel the order for my daughter without involving the court system. He agrees it would be nice to have money but is in no way eager to have me cancel the order saying he feels responsible for her and I simply said so put it in savings for her and give it to her as a graduation gift. He just laughed and said not a bad idea.
Please any help on this matter would be better than feeling like I am treading into quick sand.
I want to know how to sign off on a child support order. I am the custodial parent and I moved two states away and therefore there is very limited time for my daughter and her father to visit physically.
We accomodate that with unlimited phone and virtual visitation through web cams but as we all know that is just not enough. I obviously can't afford to travel back and forth every other weekend and he works every weekend anyway.
We both are in complete agreement she is doing far to well here to move back to Wisconsin and has grown as a person with the smaller classes and closer knit community she is now in and has made some really close friends.
My point (sorry) is I want to sign off on the child support order mainly because I see him struggling to survive because he had another child after our daughter and pays child support faithfully on both children but I can see it is wearing on him financially.
My daughter is almost 17 and I am quite capable of managing our finances without the child support as I have not rent or utility expenses where I live with my fiance and I think it only right that he be given the chance to have some money to live on and not have to wait another year and a half to do so.
I know I am one of the very rare custodial parents that doesn't go for the jugular or take every cent the poor guy ever makes out of spite and vengence.
Our order is in Wisconsin and we moved 2 years ago. Not sure if you need to know that but just in case it is useful.
How do I do this legally and not make it more complicated than it apparently already is. I just want to send a notarized letter to the child support agency itself saying I don't want the money anymore and cancel the order for my daughter without involving the court system. He agrees it would be nice to have money but is in no way eager to have me cancel the order saying he feels responsible for her and I simply said so put it in savings for her and give it to her as a graduation gift. He just laughed and said not a bad idea.
Please any help on this matter would be better than feeling like I am treading into quick sand.