My boyfriend shares custody 50/50 with his ex wife of their twin 7 yr old boys (no child support they just share child care). For the past 2 years, the days she is suppose to have them, she leaves them with her mother so she can go to her boyfriends house. She never shows up at parent/teacher conferences, she doesn't care for them properly and to me, she has abandoned them. They haven't slept at her house in over a month and one of the teins hasn't slept at her house in probably 6 months now. We have threatened many times that if this doesn't change, we will take custody. I have been keeping a journal of everything that she has done for the last 2 years. We don't have the money for a lawyer and my boyfriend seems to think that CA is a "womans state" so he is afraid to take her to court if it came to that. Any advice on that and where to find free legal service? Also, she is a hair stylist and makes a lot of money but on her taxes it doesn't show that. Would the court look at bank statements?