I am going through a divorce and being refused visitation because I do not have a permanent residence. I have been separated for months and living in an Extended stay hotel. I am trying to pay support and bills, my currant wife has threatened to move to San Diego and North Carolina, I do not want to get tied down just incase she moves I want to be able to move to be close to my 9 month old little girl. They want me to pay a bond ($5,000) or have a monitor with me for visitation till it goes to mediation end of the month. I have an attorney but he just does not seem to be helping me. I am signing a lease 30 minutes away from my daughter because I cannot afford to lease close to her. My attorney says they will fight me on this. I have never threatened to take my daughter anywhere, Even the monitor thinks this is dumb. I ask my attorney to talk to her but he doesn't. So if I refuse to use a monitor I don't get to see my daughter. Even when I get my permanent residence next week I will still have to pay a monitor. I feel I am being discriminated against just because I am a man and my wife can basically do whatever she wants. I could not even give my daughter her Christmas present on Christmas eve I had to leave it at the door. I also have four kids that live in IN and they are 18,16,14,and twelve, before I hired an attorney her attorney told me that "they were in no way questioning my abilities as a father my wife assured him I was fully capable of taking care of my little girl". So what is the problem then.