Ecmont4413
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- Michigan
To make a long story short. My kids had been military children for the majority of THIER lives. My husband had one more year to retire so we decided to buy our dream home close to family out in the country. Upon our arrival my kids had to endure racist comments. Ex. The best place for black people is hanging from a tree branch. Black people only eat fried chicken. Chanting in the school hall ways... White power, Black power. Every incident was reported and the kids was punished but they ( the principal) could never tell us what punishment was set. Shortly upon my husbands 20th year mark to retire he called me up one day and told me there was a special assignment for him in Hawaii and if I wanted him to take it. After dealing with my kids being bullied I was more than happy to get away for four yrs in Hawaii. We rented our home and moved to Hawaii. My children were happy again and the little sparkle in THIER eyes was back as well. Upon my husbands 24 yrs in service we moved back to our home in Michigan. Upon arrival the sparkle in my girls eyes were no longer there. Instead of having four kids in school I only had two. Due to the continuous racial slurs my 15 yrs old started cutting herself and developed an eating disorder because she felt like if she could be skinny like the popular song girls all of the hate towards the color of her skin would diminish. I ended up with an emotionally wrecked kid who was now seeking counseling and never wanted to go back to school. I never let her go back and she got better and graduated school one year sooner then her peers. Now as for my 12 yr old who is now 15 she has tough skin and I thought that her way of dealing with these racial slurs was just to block it all out but I was totally wrong. Roughly two months ago on the bus she secretly recorded a kid chanting white power, white power (by the way the kid is Mexican) and has a pretty long rap sheet with the school. He was given 10 day suspension. Things kind of quieted down until a girl approached my daughter in anger because her friend was suspended. During the class the girl said "white power" to my daughter and laughed about it. Mind you my daughter always tries to sit close to her teacher hoping that for once the teacher hears these racial slurs but of course the teachers never hear anything so it's basically my daughters word against the bully. Some of the kids approached my daughter to let her know that this one girl was going to chant "White Power and even say Black power just to piss my daughter and further humiliate her. Mind you this had been going on for three years. Three yrs of black jokes. Three years of saying racial slurs. Three years of bullying. The military had taught the kids to stand up for kids that are bullied. Once the bell rung and the girl said her white power, black power out loud my daughter saw her by her locker and snapped. She walked up to the girl, yanked her by her hair and began punching her with all her might. I was completely disgusted by the video the principal showed me of the fight. The principal said that he could have expelled my daughter do to the brutality of the fight but due to the circumstances he was giving her a 10 day suspension. He would not disclose the other girls punishment but the kids said she was back after one day suspension. One fricken day for yelling white power and black power. My daughter was devastated. She has always been a good kid. She has a clean record. She has never faught anyone but because of her emotional state she reached her boiling point. I would also like to add in last year someone spray painted the N word on my garage doors. We have a small country store 2 minutes from my house and a complete stranger told my daughter who was just buying a soda pop that she was in the wrong part of town. Police were notified on both incidents and spoke to this grown ass man to never speak to my children ever again. After the fight the girl was sent to the hospital for scratches and abrasions and the mother wanted to file criminal charges against my daughter for giving her a concussion. The DA quickly told the parents that they could file aggravated assault charges because the medical records provided by the mother never mentioned anything about a concussion. She was pissed. So the girls boy friend sends a text message to my daughter calling her the N word and threatened her to watch her back because he had some of his people coming to beat her ass. The school was concerned about my daughter returning that the principal attempted to pursuance us that it would be a good idea if my daughter went back to school after her 10 day suspension. I informed him that the school failed my child and there was no way in hell would I punish my daughter and keep her out the last three weeks of school. I was hesitant and worried but I didn't want to take away her time spent with her real friends. Once the investigation was concluded a sat down with the DA and she not only wants me to press charges on the kid from the bus who chanted white power ( we have the audio recording) she also wants us to press charges on the girls boy friend for his threatening text message. My question is what about the girl? No one has mentioned filing charges on her for the racial slurs that led up to the fight. I know that I wrote a novel but I needed to get everything out so that you could get a better picture of what went on. I just recieved our court date for Aug. 15 and they have the charges for my daughter as being assault and battery. I know that's she is 15 and any judge who see's what happened should dismiss the charges. The DA told me how upset and disappointed regarding how the school dealt with many of the racially motivated incidents that have occurred in this one school. She vowed to speak to the super intendent regarding these issues. I had mentioned possibly getting the NAACP but the school was adamant that they had everything under control. I have a few friends that told me to talk to the NAACP and to even call my local news media. I don't like drama nor do I enjoy pissen people off. My husband and I are disabled veterans who just want this nightmare to end. Im not looking forward to possibly ruining these kids life. Unfortunately the guy who threaten my daughter is 17 and will be tried as an adult being that in Michigan you are considered an adult if your 17 and the other kid is looking at being expelled from ALL schools. This does not sit well with me but I have to show my kids that sometimes in life you have to stand up to these bullies. I don't want my kids to live in fear or let them think that it's ok to bully against anyone of color, religion, sexual orientation and nationality. My kids have the best of many worlds. They are Puerto Rican, Black and white. They love everyone regardless how you look. I would appreciate any advice that you can share with me. Thanks in advance! God Bless!