My step daughter whom is 4yrs has no stable enviornment. Her mother pushes her off on her own mother every sunday, my husband and i have her 2-3 days a week, and my mother in law has her 3-4 days a week. Step daughters house with her mother has moldy food left out, piles of dirty laundy thats always there,& garbage that seems to never get taken out. When step daughter is picked up she is always smelly (like hasnt had a bath in a few days) and constantly has red underneath her eyes. She never wants to go back home, and throws a tantrum when you have to take her back. She always has a rash on her bottom. There is no court order pertaining to visitation or custody. Step daughters mother has been told by numerous people that she needs to make some changes concerning her living situation but she refuses. my husband feels that we need to go for full custody. But to my understanding nm is a "mommy" state. Any advise would be greatly appreciated.