I have a divorce questions for my mother. There are four people in the household - my mother, her husband, and us (her two college-aged children.) She recently discovered that he was having an affair. She convinced him to agree to their own terms to divide property and will file for divorce within the next couple of days. They have one home in Colorado and an investment property in Arkansas. Their agreement is for her to take over all of the Colorado assets, and he will take over everything in Arkansas.
My stepfather has been unemployed for the last five years (no reason, just not motivated to work). As such, my mother has been making payments on both of their homes as well as all of his personal expenditures (truck payment, cell phones, etc.). Because he is unemployed, he is not able to pay for the Arkansas property mortgage. She is being forced to pay for everything until the divorce is finalized in order to save her credit.
He refuses to leave the home in Colorado because he says that he has nowhere to go/doesn't have the financial resources to move out. He is continuing to talk to the woman with whom he is having an affair, is staying rent-free and using the food/utilities/other expenses all on my mother's dime. The fact that my mother has to watch him cheat on her while he stays in the household that she is providing for 100% is taking a heavy emotional toll on my mother.
She seems to think that she can't force him out of the house until the divorce is finalized - 6 months or more. Everybody in the house is miserable and I don't think this situation can be maintained for the long, drawn-out divorce process. Is there anything that can be done in the meantime?
My stepfather has been unemployed for the last five years (no reason, just not motivated to work). As such, my mother has been making payments on both of their homes as well as all of his personal expenditures (truck payment, cell phones, etc.). Because he is unemployed, he is not able to pay for the Arkansas property mortgage. She is being forced to pay for everything until the divorce is finalized in order to save her credit.
He refuses to leave the home in Colorado because he says that he has nowhere to go/doesn't have the financial resources to move out. He is continuing to talk to the woman with whom he is having an affair, is staying rent-free and using the food/utilities/other expenses all on my mother's dime. The fact that my mother has to watch him cheat on her while he stays in the household that she is providing for 100% is taking a heavy emotional toll on my mother.
She seems to think that she can't force him out of the house until the divorce is finalized - 6 months or more. Everybody in the house is miserable and I don't think this situation can be maintained for the long, drawn-out divorce process. Is there anything that can be done in the meantime?
