Proserpina
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Don't know if you did but if you would have read the first post you would have read that Dad has already established paternity, visitation, and child support. From what I thought if dad would have been there when mom had the child and signed as the father on the birth certificate then I thought the child would have gotten his last name then....so if he's the father I really don't see reason as to why the child shouldn't have the fathers last name? It may just be I don't know enought about this situation. When parents have children out of wedlock is it normal that if the dad is present at birth the child gets his last name? I don't want backed up. I'm just here for facts and advice. I'm not sure I understand why dad shouldn't have his child have his last name just based apon who has primary custody. Mom already has primary custody shouldn't dad at least get to give her his last name? what effects would that have on the childs relationship between dad and mom? When mom has the child primarily and the child has her last name couldn't that be considered her trying to hurt dad and chids relationship? Or something like that? I may be way off and by no means do I claim to know what I'm talking about here I'm just asking so i know. And so dad knows really.. thank you. I do appreciate the advice.
The law allows Dad to petition the court to ask. What often follows, particularly when the NCP has a record of consistent, regular contact with the child, is hyphenation (Kiddo Mom'sName-Dad'sName or vice versa) of the child's name, if the parents cannot agree beforehand.
To answer your question of whether kiddo having Mom's last name would be considered trying to hurt Dad..the answer is a very clear "no". Mom could have, if she wished, named the child Bill Gates XXI, and this does not constitute alienation of any sort.
All things considered, the child's welfare is the most important thing here. And though I'm not an attorney, I've seen hyphenation of the child's name ordered much, much more often than the flat out denial of the NCP's petition (except in cases where the petitioning NCP has NOT been a consistent part of the child's life).
(This also does not mean that Bill Gates is responsible for the child )