Hello. Thank you for taking the time to read and (hopefully) respond to my post with some useful information.
My ex-husband and I divorced a few years ago, and he was granted full physical and legal custody of my son. I was granted half legal custody with unsupervised visits every other weekend, as well as any other time that my ex and I agree upon. I pay child support every two weeks as ordered by the court. My ex and I are on very good terms in regards to all of this and basically every other situation, with the exception of the following.
I am engaged to a man I have known since childhood, who has unfortunately been incarcerated in California State Prison for two (almost consecutive) terms. One was for two years, and the one he's currently serving has been almost four years.
The point of this post is not to argue if this is right or wrong. It is what it is and I appreciate the responders' acknowledgment that I have my son's best interest, safety, and good mental health in mind. If there was ever to be a sign of those things being in jeopardy, I would end the relationship and this would all be a non-issue. With that aside, I'll proceed.
My fiance' is paroling to my home. I live in a one-bedroom apartment by myself. His criminal record is quite extensive, however a new start is all we want. My ex-husband loathes my fiance', and tells me that he will not allow our son to meet or spend any time near or with my fiance'. This obviously poses the possibility of a major problem for everyone.
My questions are:
What can my ex-husband legally do to prevent my son from being near my fiance', if anything?
Does my lifestyle have anything to do with any decisions? (I'm clean, sober, working full-time, educated, and stable.)
How pertinent is my fiance's criminal record in this situation? (He has never committed or been convicted of any violent crimes in regular society, but he has "caught cases" while institutionalized, he has never committed or been convicted of any criminal behavior involving children, he has never committed or been convicted of any sex crime whatsoever... his charges involve holding drugs and guns, auto theft, and he IS a validated prison gang member.)
What would it cost financially and time-wise for my ex to do anything to take steps legally?
I really appreciate any advice I can get. I know how this must sound based on the facts. There is just so much more to this story that is actually positive and good, but again, the point here is for me to be able to explore both my ex's options and my own to know how I can protect my relationship with my son from being disrupted by my ex's contempt for a man that is trying to change his life after paying his dues for his crimes.
Thank you.
My ex-husband and I divorced a few years ago, and he was granted full physical and legal custody of my son. I was granted half legal custody with unsupervised visits every other weekend, as well as any other time that my ex and I agree upon. I pay child support every two weeks as ordered by the court. My ex and I are on very good terms in regards to all of this and basically every other situation, with the exception of the following.
I am engaged to a man I have known since childhood, who has unfortunately been incarcerated in California State Prison for two (almost consecutive) terms. One was for two years, and the one he's currently serving has been almost four years.
The point of this post is not to argue if this is right or wrong. It is what it is and I appreciate the responders' acknowledgment that I have my son's best interest, safety, and good mental health in mind. If there was ever to be a sign of those things being in jeopardy, I would end the relationship and this would all be a non-issue. With that aside, I'll proceed.
My fiance' is paroling to my home. I live in a one-bedroom apartment by myself. His criminal record is quite extensive, however a new start is all we want. My ex-husband loathes my fiance', and tells me that he will not allow our son to meet or spend any time near or with my fiance'. This obviously poses the possibility of a major problem for everyone.
My questions are:
What can my ex-husband legally do to prevent my son from being near my fiance', if anything?
Does my lifestyle have anything to do with any decisions? (I'm clean, sober, working full-time, educated, and stable.)
How pertinent is my fiance's criminal record in this situation? (He has never committed or been convicted of any violent crimes in regular society, but he has "caught cases" while institutionalized, he has never committed or been convicted of any criminal behavior involving children, he has never committed or been convicted of any sex crime whatsoever... his charges involve holding drugs and guns, auto theft, and he IS a validated prison gang member.)
What would it cost financially and time-wise for my ex to do anything to take steps legally?
I really appreciate any advice I can get. I know how this must sound based on the facts. There is just so much more to this story that is actually positive and good, but again, the point here is for me to be able to explore both my ex's options and my own to know how I can protect my relationship with my son from being disrupted by my ex's contempt for a man that is trying to change his life after paying his dues for his crimes.
Thank you.
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