mikeyindaburg
New Member
I am posting this question in regards to my best friend who is being horribly wronged by his wife. He is an outstanding citizen, soldier, and father (he basically raised the kids himself, and continues to financially aid them); she was an absent parent, adultress, and drug-addict/alcoholic. They waited until the kids grew up to finally separate, which was a few years ago, but as I understand PA state law does not count that as anything--you're either married or divorced.
He has paid her health insurance, rehab costs, costs of medications, and car payments even though they have separated. However that isn't enough--she just sued him for alimony, and won: she lied on the forms and claimed that she has no income, even though the truth is that she is working under-the-table for her current boyfriend (with whom she has lived for the past couple of years). Thus, according to PA state law, my friend must now pay 40% of the difference of their income in alimony payments. According to the judge it doesn't matter who did what in the marriage--it's all about the numbers.
He's also being screwed with the house: both of their names are on it, but sine she is lazy and lies about having no income, it's up to him to spend the $3,000 on repairs in order to put it on the market, with the hopes that he'll break even. As if that isn't enough, she is now suing him for half of his retirement. If you ask me, she is a vile and dispicable human being for doing this to someone that has taken care of her all these years.
These are my questions: She is obviously using the system unjustly, so how can my friend protect himself from completely ruined by this woman? Also, is there any way for him to reduce the amount of alimony he is now unjustly being forced to pay? And finally, she will undoubtedly do anything she can to slow down the divorce so that she can continue receiving alimony payments... how can my friend rush the divorce before he loses everything?
I do have a bonus question, but I think the answer is "no": can my friend sue her for anything at all? She is basically ruining his life, even though he has done nothing but take care of her. I thank any responder in advance for your guidance!
He has paid her health insurance, rehab costs, costs of medications, and car payments even though they have separated. However that isn't enough--she just sued him for alimony, and won: she lied on the forms and claimed that she has no income, even though the truth is that she is working under-the-table for her current boyfriend (with whom she has lived for the past couple of years). Thus, according to PA state law, my friend must now pay 40% of the difference of their income in alimony payments. According to the judge it doesn't matter who did what in the marriage--it's all about the numbers.
He's also being screwed with the house: both of their names are on it, but sine she is lazy and lies about having no income, it's up to him to spend the $3,000 on repairs in order to put it on the market, with the hopes that he'll break even. As if that isn't enough, she is now suing him for half of his retirement. If you ask me, she is a vile and dispicable human being for doing this to someone that has taken care of her all these years.
These are my questions: She is obviously using the system unjustly, so how can my friend protect himself from completely ruined by this woman? Also, is there any way for him to reduce the amount of alimony he is now unjustly being forced to pay? And finally, she will undoubtedly do anything she can to slow down the divorce so that she can continue receiving alimony payments... how can my friend rush the divorce before he loses everything?
I do have a bonus question, but I think the answer is "no": can my friend sue her for anything at all? She is basically ruining his life, even though he has done nothing but take care of her. I thank any responder in advance for your guidance!
