- Jurisdiction
- New York
Hard to sum up my disaster of a marriage but in short:
My wife is angry and emotionally abusive to me; treats me as persona non grata. Even strangers in public have made comments to my wife on badly she treats me.
More crucially, she also has such disregard for the emotional well-being of our (only) child, that she regularly involves our child in disputes and arguments with me. This places undue stresses and pressures on our child which are starting to have an effect.
My wife has has contributed almost nothing to our marriage. She came into it in debt and barren; I gave up all I had to pay for the treatments required so we could have a child. She is also financially reckless, having almost bankrupt us twice.
She is lazy and disengaged, virtually immobile at home. If anything at all gets done in our home, it's done by me. (I also contribute decent income from my own business, in most years, more than she.) She openly considers herself having zero responsibilities or accountability in our family. Most legal tests of "non-consortium" would likely apply to her.
Yet...with any discussion of splitting, my wife is constantly emboldened by the court's bias and extorts me with such... she threatens that no matter what, the courts always favor the mother and that she would get custody of our child if I left.
However, divorce has not been an option for me. If my wife would get custody of our child, the child would likely never see a park or learn math or be taught proper manners. Unlike my wife's family, my family can (and does) provide a decidedly better and enriching environment for our child.
Sadly, in what reminds me of the movie "Gone Girl," my wife has long perpetuated a false narrative about me to our child as "the bad guy." Given the choice by a court, our child would likely choose to live with my wife based on lies and biases our child has been taught.
To note: I have never laid a hand on my wife nor child nor anyone. Never cheated on her. I am known as a good, very hardworking father and I am confident of that. I am complimented frequently by friends and neighbors on my dedication to our family.
I endure this for the sake of our child having two parents at home, and because court bias in custody battles handcuffs me.
So, what exactly does a father have to do to get custody if the wife is a non-contributing, abusive roommate-at-best?
Is losing custody in a divorce the only answer?
My wife is angry and emotionally abusive to me; treats me as persona non grata. Even strangers in public have made comments to my wife on badly she treats me.
More crucially, she also has such disregard for the emotional well-being of our (only) child, that she regularly involves our child in disputes and arguments with me. This places undue stresses and pressures on our child which are starting to have an effect.
My wife has has contributed almost nothing to our marriage. She came into it in debt and barren; I gave up all I had to pay for the treatments required so we could have a child. She is also financially reckless, having almost bankrupt us twice.
She is lazy and disengaged, virtually immobile at home. If anything at all gets done in our home, it's done by me. (I also contribute decent income from my own business, in most years, more than she.) She openly considers herself having zero responsibilities or accountability in our family. Most legal tests of "non-consortium" would likely apply to her.
Yet...with any discussion of splitting, my wife is constantly emboldened by the court's bias and extorts me with such... she threatens that no matter what, the courts always favor the mother and that she would get custody of our child if I left.
However, divorce has not been an option for me. If my wife would get custody of our child, the child would likely never see a park or learn math or be taught proper manners. Unlike my wife's family, my family can (and does) provide a decidedly better and enriching environment for our child.
Sadly, in what reminds me of the movie "Gone Girl," my wife has long perpetuated a false narrative about me to our child as "the bad guy." Given the choice by a court, our child would likely choose to live with my wife based on lies and biases our child has been taught.
To note: I have never laid a hand on my wife nor child nor anyone. Never cheated on her. I am known as a good, very hardworking father and I am confident of that. I am complimented frequently by friends and neighbors on my dedication to our family.
I endure this for the sake of our child having two parents at home, and because court bias in custody battles handcuffs me.
So, what exactly does a father have to do to get custody if the wife is a non-contributing, abusive roommate-at-best?
Is losing custody in a divorce the only answer?
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