I admit, my son has completely blown it as a father. I, on the other hand, used to have a very special connection with my grandson. But, because of my sons lack of trying to be a parent, the mother has moved hundreds of miles away and has completely stopped any and all contact between myself and my grandson. I continue to call and leave messages or send cards, gifts or letters to her mothers address, but I don't even know if he gets any of it. I want to be able to see him. The last I heard she wanted her new husband to adopt my grandson so that he would have his name, instead of my sons. Do I have any say in this at all? Or do I lose the best part of me because my son screwed up?