Worried Dad
New Member
Been dating someone for about a year now, she has two daughters (14 and 15) and I have sole custody of my almost 11 year old daughter.We didn't introduce the kids into the relationship until about 4 months ago.We wanted to make sure when we brought the kids into the mix, we did it the right way and made them the focus, to make sure both my daughter and her daughters were comfortable.We all get along very well (3 kids me and my gf). I also coach two different sports of 10-12 year old girls. After a few quiet months, her ex husband has started voicing his opinion about me being around her children. Stating that I text them and make them feel uncomfortable (both have come to me personally and told me that is not true), I text them things like "congrats on making the team" or "have a great day".The ex is using the word predator and saying he will take action against for being around and texting his girls.He has a girlfriend who lives with him and is around the girls and texts them.
Basically, I completely understand being worried another man is in your kids lives. I would feel the same, if my daughters mom tried to bring a guy into her life. I have gone through the process of meeting my girlfriends ex, talking to him, and he acts fine to me and my face. He then sends her nasty texts, then is fine to my face, sends her nasty texts rinse and repeat.
I am more worried about him making false accusations than anything, with me having sole custody of my own daughter and coaching girls in two different spots, I don't want one of the best relationships I have ever been in to suffer because of her ex. I care about her girls and her and they are happy with me in their lives but he seems threatened by it, and again I understand from his situation. More so I am just asking what control he has, and if his threats to her about me not allowing to be around them can be enforced, or not allowed to text them can be enforced? When he has a live in girlfriend who is around them constantly and texts them, and my girlfriend doesn't try and block that or say anything, she knows he is going to date and have people in her girls lives.
Basically, I completely understand being worried another man is in your kids lives. I would feel the same, if my daughters mom tried to bring a guy into her life. I have gone through the process of meeting my girlfriends ex, talking to him, and he acts fine to me and my face. He then sends her nasty texts, then is fine to my face, sends her nasty texts rinse and repeat.
I am more worried about him making false accusations than anything, with me having sole custody of my own daughter and coaching girls in two different spots, I don't want one of the best relationships I have ever been in to suffer because of her ex. I care about her girls and her and they are happy with me in their lives but he seems threatened by it, and again I understand from his situation. More so I am just asking what control he has, and if his threats to her about me not allowing to be around them can be enforced, or not allowed to text them can be enforced? When he has a live in girlfriend who is around them constantly and texts them, and my girlfriend doesn't try and block that or say anything, she knows he is going to date and have people in her girls lives.