The court ordered custody arrangement my ex-husband and I have is that I have sole legal custody and visitation for my ex-husband with our 12 year old son is "for reasonable times upon reasonable notice".
Our son usually visits with his father 2x a week amounting to about 7 to 10 hours total in a week. My ex doesn't abide by the court order by giving me notice. I've had to provide our son with a cell phone so he can tell me whats going on because his father will not.
My ex-husband has not provided the basic necessities for our son like clothes, shoes, a bed, pillow, toothbrush, etc. My ex-husband has filled up most of his free time volunteering to coach sporting events for his stepchildren and no longer makes time for his son. He still picks up his son, but expects him to hang around in a park for 3 hours (even after dark)while his father coaches his stepchildren or be forced to be alone with his stepmother. Our son has told me and his father that he doesn't want to have anything to do with his stepmother and does not want to be left alone with her because of inappropriate things she has said to him. She has even made our son sit in a car alone for nearly 1 hour when she was angry with him. There are too many things going on to list all, but know that they are all borderline abuse and neglect issues, not enough for cps to intervene, but bad enough to damage our son emotionally. I want to know if it is within my legal right, given the current court order, to suspend visitation until my ex-husband agrees to mediate things for the sake of our son? My ex-husband thinks he has the right to force his son to spend time at his house or be alone with his stepmother when he doesn't want to. Does he? My son just want to spend time with his father. That shouldn't be too much to ask. Please note before responding that the court order is not your a-typical visitation order. There are no set times, which means there should be no reason for him to ask for visitation if he is not going to be present, right?
Our son usually visits with his father 2x a week amounting to about 7 to 10 hours total in a week. My ex doesn't abide by the court order by giving me notice. I've had to provide our son with a cell phone so he can tell me whats going on because his father will not.
My ex-husband has not provided the basic necessities for our son like clothes, shoes, a bed, pillow, toothbrush, etc. My ex-husband has filled up most of his free time volunteering to coach sporting events for his stepchildren and no longer makes time for his son. He still picks up his son, but expects him to hang around in a park for 3 hours (even after dark)while his father coaches his stepchildren or be forced to be alone with his stepmother. Our son has told me and his father that he doesn't want to have anything to do with his stepmother and does not want to be left alone with her because of inappropriate things she has said to him. She has even made our son sit in a car alone for nearly 1 hour when she was angry with him. There are too many things going on to list all, but know that they are all borderline abuse and neglect issues, not enough for cps to intervene, but bad enough to damage our son emotionally. I want to know if it is within my legal right, given the current court order, to suspend visitation until my ex-husband agrees to mediate things for the sake of our son? My ex-husband thinks he has the right to force his son to spend time at his house or be alone with his stepmother when he doesn't want to. Does he? My son just want to spend time with his father. That shouldn't be too much to ask. Please note before responding that the court order is not your a-typical visitation order. There are no set times, which means there should be no reason for him to ask for visitation if he is not going to be present, right?
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