- Jurisdiction
- Louisiana
My ex wife and I have a 6 yr old boy and 3 yr old girl. We were married for 7-1/2 yrs and separated around May 27th 2016, I moved out and stayed with my parents for about 3-4 months until I could find an affordable place. she decided to move forward and file for the divorce, I didn't want to but I just went along with it. we did have any money and we were still sharing an account. I was laid off for about a year. Ended up getting a great job and found a house that I could afford. We shared a lawyer and agreed on all the financial responsibilities, and we agreed to do every other weekend with me and also every Wednesday night that they are with me. I also took them with me numerous other nights. The lawyer informed us up front that if we didn't agree completely that he would not handle the case, he was giving us a discount. I went after nothing, I left her to just keep the house we bought and we basically split all the kids bills and mutual debt. the kicker is this lawyer said we could just put any date down that the marriage was over on January 27th. a full 4 months prior to the day I left, the same day as the argument occurred. I didn't know how to deal with this lie, and I was still working towards getting back together. we were still having sex and telling each other we love one another. I was still doing all the thing like cut the grass or anything else she asked for. Well when got to about the 2nd week of January she started mentally preparing herself for the court date, and started telling me that I never loved her, like she was repeating it to herself to convince herself of it. she would be difficult and always yelling about everything. I had scheduled that day off about a month before, and when I asked 3-4 days prior for the time and the judges name so I would know where to go. I had a witness, which she said I needed to provide, but at that point she started yelling and going nuts, saying " you said you were not going and you were not supplying a witness, now I got 2 witnesses and we are using them ( her sister and her best friend ). So on the day before I called to speak with her and the kids and asked her again when and were it would be she hung up the phone and would not answer. I tried again in the morning and still nothing. I can only conclude that she did not want the chance for me to tell the truth and keep the marriage going for another 4 months. at his point she completely irrational, blame me for any little thing she can put on me she has started to ignore my calls for the kids, she only allows me to speak with them at night when they going to be, about 3-5 minutes, and not much else. I would always stop over after work and visit with the kids and she has told me that I am not allowed there again. So not only did she lie in court , but she refused to tell me the time and location, and she is now seeing someone and seems to be having sleep overs, I don't have much proof other than his truck being there on several different occasions at 3:00-3:30 am, obviously I would not bring that up if it were not plain as day in the custody papers, and i am looking for anything that will allow me to have 7-7 custody. My kids our young and confused by her behavior, so much so that my son has had issues with bed wetting and he starts crying every time he is with me because he wants me to go live with him, she has still not told any of his teachers and I believe that this knowledge would help them understand what he is going through. She teaches at his school and is afraid that she will loose her job because she works at a private Catholic school and she dose not want to even start answering the priest and her principle and possibly let her inner atheist shine out. SO with the way things are I am thinking of going to court for 7 day with me 7 days with her. I have asked her and she absolutely refuses to even discuss it. I have always been the parent that did everything for my two kids. I changed EVERY diaper that I was home for and even some that she would let sit until I got home 5 minutes later. I bathed and fed them every night, and I also got up through out the night when they were babies and needed to be fed. and put to sleep. I know she will make up some sort of lie that I am a drug addict, and say I'm unable to care for them, that is completely false. As I said I did about 97% of everything for the kids. Do I have a shot at getting this over turned to a 7 and 7. Also I am paying about 1000 + each month ( child support with day care, insurance and my sons tuition included) would the child support go down because of the living time now being equal. Also can I use the whole perjury thing that her and her lawyer and their witnesses knew it was a lie. I don't really want to use it to hurt her, I still care for her and will always have a place for her as the mother of my kids, but is it a legitimate question and I would use it if I had too, and I just want to have my kids with me more and not have to play this child like games and deal with this uncooperative behavior of never answering the phone, her refusal to even speak about the kids has become intolerable. thanks.
