If a married couple has been separated for 2 or more years and have not filed for divorce or legal separation does the father have to know by law the address where the child and mother is living? the reason i ask me and my gf just moved to a new location and she does not want to give him the address because she is afraid of him, when they were together he was abusive and she's afraid if he knows he'll tear the apartment up. so now he's telling her he's going to take her to court so he knows the address. now i remind you he doesn't even see the child by choice.