momma_2_four
New Member
I think my case is all kinds of screwed up from the get go and it is just now starting to get straightened out.
My son's dad and I have previously managed to come up with our parenting arrangements and such either through mediation or offline. The parenting plan was always submitted to the court and approved/ordered. BUT child support has never been court ordered, nor has it ever been sent to the court for approval. My son is 10, his dad & I were never married and have not lived together or had any kind of relationship since he was 18 months. Since his recent divorce he has been pushing everything through the court, new parenting plan, new school for our son, and now a motion to modify child support.
He has always given me a check every month in an amount we have agreed to. The amount was always at least loosely based on the KS child support guidelines. He is supporting his son and has always done so. I'm actually concerned he will be harming himself by taking this before the court. Will they consider the money he has always given me as child support even though it was never court ordered? He gives it to me as a check with the month and "child support for (son's name)" in the memo line. We've always erred on the low end of the child support estimates since I make more than my son's dad and I don't live outside my means. I have never relied on the c/s as more than extra money for our son to be able to do extra-curricular activities and I would also pay 100% of his medical costs for most of those costs that way dad's c/s was never more than he could afford. With my son's dad's recent divorce I'm concerned this could impact him negatively when he has said numerous times he cannot afford even the smallest costs not budgeted for already.
Any idea if the court would determine they needed to set up c/s instead of modifying? Or if they would consider what we have done in the past to be the equivalent of court ordered support and only modify for the future?
My son's dad and I have previously managed to come up with our parenting arrangements and such either through mediation or offline. The parenting plan was always submitted to the court and approved/ordered. BUT child support has never been court ordered, nor has it ever been sent to the court for approval. My son is 10, his dad & I were never married and have not lived together or had any kind of relationship since he was 18 months. Since his recent divorce he has been pushing everything through the court, new parenting plan, new school for our son, and now a motion to modify child support.
He has always given me a check every month in an amount we have agreed to. The amount was always at least loosely based on the KS child support guidelines. He is supporting his son and has always done so. I'm actually concerned he will be harming himself by taking this before the court. Will they consider the money he has always given me as child support even though it was never court ordered? He gives it to me as a check with the month and "child support for (son's name)" in the memo line. We've always erred on the low end of the child support estimates since I make more than my son's dad and I don't live outside my means. I have never relied on the c/s as more than extra money for our son to be able to do extra-curricular activities and I would also pay 100% of his medical costs for most of those costs that way dad's c/s was never more than he could afford. With my son's dad's recent divorce I'm concerned this could impact him negatively when he has said numerous times he cannot afford even the smallest costs not budgeted for already.
Any idea if the court would determine they needed to set up c/s instead of modifying? Or if they would consider what we have done in the past to be the equivalent of court ordered support and only modify for the future?