My ex and I have been separated for almost 2 years. We are in the process of a divorce. We have a custody arrangement for our 2 boys between the two of us that was never enforced in court. We live close together, so we've worked out a 50/50 arrangement that's been working well for the both of us. The boys use his address as their residence so that they can remain in the same school district they've grown up in. He's a good father and pretty much pays for whatever the boys need. He makes twice as much money as I do and is able to give the things to the boys that I can't. When I approach him about support, he becomes defensive and threatens to keep me from my children. He says that he takes care of his children and their needs, and if I can't then they shouldn't be with me. I don't even really care about the amount, I just want legal documentation that states what each of us is financially responsible for. I struggle to make it paycheck to paycheck and can't get any kind of assistance because I don't have a support order. When I try to get one, he threatens to take the children from me. He tells me that since the children RESIDE with him, he can ban me from taking them from his home. I can't afford a lawyer and just want this to stop. What are my options?