I've posted before re: my son & his girlfriend, both 25, w/2 mth old. He works/she doesn't, he strives to be a responsible father, she strives to party while he stays home w/baby. She comes home at 2-3am beligerantly drunk - he leaves & comes to my house to get away from her, yet he worries about leaving the baby w/a beligerant drunk who will be hung over in the morning. It's a concern for me as well.
There's no custody agreement, and though he's 99% certain it is his baby, paternity is not yet officially established. I know it's not my child and I can't do anything, but it's so frustrating. My son comes to me for help, yet can't seem to make any moves to end this relationship and seek custody - be it full or joint.
When he leaves she goes on vile middle of the night texting rampages. She's a drama queen who like to fight & get the last word in. He's doesn't respond, so she calls my house phone every 5 minutes or texts me & sometimes my 16 yr old daughter. We do not respond either. This happened - again - Fri @ 1-2am. We had to turn off our cell phones & block her number from house phone to get some sleep.
The next day she wanted to go to a graduation party, but had no ride home. She has the nerve to ask my son to pick her up when the party's over despite all the nasty crap from the night before. He said no way, but offered to keep baby overnight @ my house, saying he knew she'd be drinking & since he had to work in the morning he didn't want to be dealing with any middle of the night drama. She refused that offer, of course, & went to the party w/baby.
Sure enough, @ 12am she's asking my son to pick her up, trying to lay a guilt trip on him that she has no ride. He would not answer, so she starts texting me nasty messages. I'm a horrible person, I don't care about my granddaughter, etc.....She walking home on a busy road & it will take her 45 minutes to get home thanks to all of us. I refuse to deal with her when she's drunk, so I didn't answer. She then started calling our house phone every 5 minutes. I finally picked up to talk to her because I was concerned about the baby's welfare at this point - I mean, is she really walking home in the middle of the night, drunk, on a busy road, with a baby?? When I answer she says nothing - instead all I hear is a very loud party in the background - her intention I'm sure, for the next time she calls & I answered out of concern, same thing. These are just the kind of immature games she likes to play.
I wanted to call the police so they could at the very least call her or go to the party and make sure that she was not trying to walk home while drunk with a baby, but my son urged me not to, saying the party was next door to her mom's house and if she didn't have a ride home she could spend the night there.
Should I have called anyway under the circumstances?
And the relentless late night text messages and calls to my house phone is so irritating. I've never called the police on her for this - should I just continue ignoring it and letting it slide - or should I hold her responsible for phone harrassment?
Any insight on dealing with this type of person is appreciated.
There's no custody agreement, and though he's 99% certain it is his baby, paternity is not yet officially established. I know it's not my child and I can't do anything, but it's so frustrating. My son comes to me for help, yet can't seem to make any moves to end this relationship and seek custody - be it full or joint.
When he leaves she goes on vile middle of the night texting rampages. She's a drama queen who like to fight & get the last word in. He's doesn't respond, so she calls my house phone every 5 minutes or texts me & sometimes my 16 yr old daughter. We do not respond either. This happened - again - Fri @ 1-2am. We had to turn off our cell phones & block her number from house phone to get some sleep.
The next day she wanted to go to a graduation party, but had no ride home. She has the nerve to ask my son to pick her up when the party's over despite all the nasty crap from the night before. He said no way, but offered to keep baby overnight @ my house, saying he knew she'd be drinking & since he had to work in the morning he didn't want to be dealing with any middle of the night drama. She refused that offer, of course, & went to the party w/baby.
Sure enough, @ 12am she's asking my son to pick her up, trying to lay a guilt trip on him that she has no ride. He would not answer, so she starts texting me nasty messages. I'm a horrible person, I don't care about my granddaughter, etc.....She walking home on a busy road & it will take her 45 minutes to get home thanks to all of us. I refuse to deal with her when she's drunk, so I didn't answer. She then started calling our house phone every 5 minutes. I finally picked up to talk to her because I was concerned about the baby's welfare at this point - I mean, is she really walking home in the middle of the night, drunk, on a busy road, with a baby?? When I answer she says nothing - instead all I hear is a very loud party in the background - her intention I'm sure, for the next time she calls & I answered out of concern, same thing. These are just the kind of immature games she likes to play.
I wanted to call the police so they could at the very least call her or go to the party and make sure that she was not trying to walk home while drunk with a baby, but my son urged me not to, saying the party was next door to her mom's house and if she didn't have a ride home she could spend the night there.
Should I have called anyway under the circumstances?
And the relentless late night text messages and calls to my house phone is so irritating. I've never called the police on her for this - should I just continue ignoring it and letting it slide - or should I hold her responsible for phone harrassment?
Any insight on dealing with this type of person is appreciated.
