Sex offender wanting to re-marry

[madjac74]

I have been a registered sex offender for 8 years with just 2 more years left to register. I have been divorced for a year and a half and still have joint custody of my children and maintain a good relationship with their mom and her family.

I have met someone amazing recently and i had told her about my past even before we went on a first date. We hit it off and she wants to marry me and move to Virginia with her.

Our concern is wether I would be able to live with her because she has a young daughter and she lives near a park. She is willing to move to be away from parks or schools but she wants to know if I can be there with her daughter and if I can even visit them and stay in their house for a few days.

I do all the things a dad does with his kids and parents know about me and all that but i still get treated with respect and their kids play at my house all the time. But rules are rules and her daughter is not mine and Im not sure how that works. My fiance has a very high profile government job and I dont want to affect that or break any laws that would harm anyone in our family. Everyone supports us but we want to do all the right things.

Thank you for any advice... Mark

 

[lonelyinny]

I have been a registered sex offender for 8 years with just 2 more years left to register. I have been divorced for a year and a half and still have joint custody of my children and maintain a good relationship with their mom and her family.

I have met someone amazing recently and i had told her about my past even before we went on a first date. We hit it off and she wants to marry me and move to Virginia with her.

Our concern is wether I would be able to live with her because she has a young daughter and she lives near a park. She is willing to move to be away from parks or schools but she wants to know if I can be there with her daughter and if I can even visit them and stay in their house for a few days.

I do all the things a dad does with his kids and parents know about me and all that but i still get treated with respect and their kids play at my house all the time. But rules are rules and her daughter is not mine and Im not sure how that works. My fiance has a very high profile government job and I dont want to affect that or break any laws that would harm anyone in our family. Everyone supports us but we want to do all the right things.

Thank you for any advice... Mark

you wont be allowed to be alone with her daughter.period.

 

[BayState]

I have been a registered sex offender for 8 years with just 2 more years left to register. I have been divorced for a year and a half and still have joint custody of my children and maintain a good relationship with their mom and her family.

I have met someone amazing recently and i had told her about my past even before we went on a first date. We hit it off and she wants to marry me and move to Virginia with her.

Our concern is wether I would be able to live with her because she has a young daughter and she lives near a park. She is willing to move to be away from parks or schools but she wants to know if I can be there with her daughter and if I can even visit them and stay in their house for a few days.

I do all the things a dad does with his kids and parents know about me and all that but i still get treated with respect and their kids play at my house all the time. But rules are rules and her daughter is not mine and Im not sure how that works. My fiance has a very high profile government job and I dont want to affect that or break any laws that would harm anyone in our family. Everyone supports us but we want to do all the right things.

Thank you for any advice... Mark

What are the terms of your probation? What were you convicted of? Is this woman willing to lose custody of her daughter to the father if he files for full custody due to Mom marring a convicted sex offender?

 

[madjac74]

I was convicted of a child pornography charge 8 years ago and served my 2 1/2 years probation. We have discussed all issues with her ex and other family members and it is not a concern and i certainly wouldnt put her in a position to lose her daughter if I thought it were an issue. But Im just wondering if we dont get married til Im done registering in a few years, can I visit in the mean time?

 

[Duranie]

The mother is nuts for being with you, IMO. Sorry if that sounded rude. She does risk losing her daughter. I can tell you if I was that childs Dad I would be making sure you were never around my child and if mom marries you, she faces serious trouble, even from social services. Dad should be filing for custody and mom may not even get unsupervised visits because this is a really poor decision on her part. You are a risk to the child. I have a really hard time believing her ex, or her family, is not going to have an issue with you. My advice....call this off and date someone without small kids. This woman had better prepare for a whirlwind of problems if she goes through with this.

 

[madjac74]

I have two young children of my own and havent lost any parental rights and have never had to deal with child services. I guess people see the mistake and the label and assume the worst of a person. Im glad there are better people out there willing to give people a chance.

 

[Duranie]

However no woman should risk her child for you. She could lose custody. I am a mother to 2 small kids and no way would I risk something like this. I realize that not all labeled sex offenders are child predators, and that there is a stigma with being labeled a sex offender. But at the end of the day a womans child should come first.

 

[madjac74]

You are absolutely right. We are not rushing into anything and making sure everything is done properly and legaly. Despite my status I am a good father to my children and wouldnt put my kids or her child in danger. She has a high level government job in DC and they know about our relationship (lets face it they probably know everything ) and it hasnt been a concern and they are ones to be concerned about everything. Thank you very much for your replies and treating me fairly.

 

[wrowley]

I have my own problems but I was reading this and thought I would add something. I have been married for 14 years and my husband is a registered sex offender for 10 years. My kids recently were taken from me cause accusations were said about my husband and although he took a lie detector test (passed it)and no evidence had been found, they are using his sex offense in the past to keep my kids from me. Although I love my husband to death, my kids come first. IF they give me a chance to get them back and have him leave, he will. SO I think U should take the steps to wait. Just so nothing can be said. All it takes is one person to say something and she could lose her daughter forever. Trust me on this. By the way my husband case is not involving a child. It does not matter. The lawyers even say his case will be hard to prove. Hope This helps!