Service Member Harassment/Child Custody

[aprilescapes]

Shared Joint Custody, primary residency with the ex. He decides to take a two year assignment overseas without asking and I refuse to allow child to go. Child comes to live with me for 5 months now. He calls and harasses me because he says he is facing breach of contract for not having family member there on accompanied tour. Wants child for summer and next school year with promises of returning child summer '11. Child was supposed to visit for summer only and does not want to live there either. I have not modified custody agreement showing primary residency is now with me and do not know what to do. Says he will be here soon to get child although child has had to be in counseling now and he has failed to maintain constant contact with child until past three? weeks. All this is not because he is concerned about child but about getting into trouble, if that is even true. My guess is that it is because he is stuck in barracks because without family member he is now not entitled to housing. Child loves father but I am concerned about child was being taken care of previous to living with me.

 

[army judge]

Tell him that he can't take the child out of the state without getting the order amended by the judge.

Tell him he'll have to request a court hearing and make his case to the court.

In the interim, be ready to file contempt proceedings against him for planning to abduct the child.

If he persists (you're gonna love this), call his commanding officer or the nearest JAG Office on base.

Tell them what he is planning to do, and that you will not allow it unless he gets a court order.

They'll fix his little wagon, good.

He better get ready to live in the barracks.

No judge will allow that child to go overseas.

Finally, he has to have a court order to take the child out of the country, or a notarized letter from you granting your permission.

Don't let him get away with these temper tantrums.

It is always what is best for the child's stability and educational progress.

Keep doing what's right, mom.