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My 19 yr old son has a 16 yr old girlfriend, pregnant to a 21 yr old. He (21 yr old) was charged with sex with a minor and I believe that her mother was also charged with some sort of child neglect. Her mother has also been charged with child abuse/neglect with her 2 younger siblings and currently being followed by a state or county agency. The mother is mentally unstable and verbally abusive, though the step-father seems nice. The home is unclean with multiple pets in the house.
What are this girls options regarding getting away from her mother. That home is an unfit environment for a baby. Her mother has been encouraging her daughter and my son to get married. I have spoke to both of them and they do not want to get married. (They have been dating for 2 months she is 6 months pregnant.) She has stayed at our home most of the time in the past 2 months. My son goes with her to doctor appts. (when the mother goes she is cussing out everyone in the drs office) We are willing to let her live with us, but are unsure of what her mother can do. She will be continuing school. My son wants to bring her and the baby here after the baby is born.
Is there someone who can help us with this matter? We really can't afford to hire a lawyer.
 
lisainmd said:
My 19 yr old son has a 16 yr old girlfriend, pregnant to a 21 yr old. He (21 yr old) was charged with sex with a minor and I believe that her mother was also charged with some sort of child neglect. Her mother has also been charged with child abuse/neglect with her 2 younger siblings and currently being followed by a state or county agency. The mother is mentally unstable and verbally abusive, though the step-father seems nice. The home is unclean with multiple pets in the house.
What are this girls options regarding getting away from her mother. That home is an unfit environment for a baby. Her mother has been encouraging her daughter and my son to get married. I have spoke to both of them and they do not want to get married. (They have been dating for 2 months she is 6 months pregnant.) She has stayed at our home most of the time in the past 2 months. My son goes with her to doctor appts. (when the mother goes she is cussing out everyone in the drs office) We are willing to let her live with us, but are unsure of what her mother can do. She will be continuing school. My son wants to bring her and the baby here after the baby is born.
Is there someone who can help us with this matter? We really can't afford to hire a lawyer.
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WHAT STATE ARE YOU IN?
Where is this child's father? Why are you allowing your ADULT son to have his LEGAL CHILD girlfriend at your home overnight?
 
Hello?

With all due respect to you and your son I only have one bit of advice for you both: RUN!

Seriously, what are you thinking? I'm sure this girl is wonderful, but she comes with a whole lot of baggage that isn't going to go away soon. When you marry someone you marry their family and you take on their baggage.

Depending on the state you are in 16 is the legal age of consent. You don't know if this 21 year old is in some sort of legal trouble or if he and his family are going to come back looking for the baby after your son has established a relationship with her. If she is underage I agree with the other poster about your son looking to share a cell with the 21 year old.

Coming from what is best described as a chaotic background, this girl is unlikely to be a good mate for your son anyway. Throw in a nosy and abusive Mother-in-law, a care less father-in-law, a baby daddy, the lack of house keeping skills the girl probably has, the fact the is an under age mother, is living in your house, and has a baby daddy in the wings and you have a recipe for disaster.

RUN RUN RUN RUN.
 
Age of Consent is 16

I just looked up the age of consent law in Maryland and it is 16. Now I don't know how old she was at conception but if she was 16 then the 21 year old is NOT in any legal trouble. You really need to check this thing out. You are playing with fire.
 
I didn't answer your question

I know this is my third post but I figured it would be polite to actually answer your question though my other advice stands.

She is a minor and you are interfering with the custody of a minor by letting her stay in your home if the Mother objects. If the Mother objects she becomes a runaway and you are harboring a runaway. If the Mother doesn't object then she is going to run into problems with the CPS agents that are already looking into her other two children and probably this one because they are bound to know she is a pregnant teen because she is probably on Medicaid. If they find out the Mother has abandoned her to your house they will probably take the poor girl and her baby into foster care~!

The bad possibilities are endless and I'm not sure you are prepared to deal with them. Somehow I don't think anyone is going to listen to me, but you are playing with FIRE!!!

Good luck. I don't have any issue with you wanting to help this girl. That's a noble thing, but you are going to end up with a world of trouble.
 
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