Porn on child's school issued computer

[Mooozic]

Jurisdiction

California

Two students were seen exchanging gay porn on their computers. One was using a school issued computer. Same students pressured a third student to watch the gay porn on the family TV and also pressured him (unsuccessfully) to expose his genitalia.

The school discovered the porn on the one student's computer. The other child was using his home computer. The school took the computer away from the one student, but has not reported this, or taken any other disciplinary action.

The mother of the one student who was only peripherally involved is concerned that the other boys MAY have taken a photo of her son while he was at their home. The un-involved student also woke during the night with a sleepover at one of the boys' home with one of the boys lying on top of him which upset him in a big way.

This child is a special ed student who is a very large individual - about 6 feet tall - and barely 11 years old. The mother is very concerned and wants to know what she can do. She (and I) is/are concerned that more is going on with these two boys. Where were the parents when these boys were watching gay porn on the family TV that night? Why and how would these kids even get to the porn? What is legal? What is mandated reporting in California? I am a mandated reporter, but I don't know where this falls. Thanks.

 

[army judge]

This child is a special ed student who is a very large individual - about 6 feet tall - and barely 11 years old. The mother is very concerned and wants to know what she can do. She (and I) is/are concerned that more is going on with these two boys. Where were the parents when these boys were watching gay porn on the family TV that night? Why and how would these kids even get to the porn? What is legal? What is mandated reporting in California? I am a mandated reporter, but I don't know where this falls. Thanks.

With what you believe went down, maybe is still going down, the potential for a crime exists.
Heck, maybe even three or four crimes.

I'd visit the police station and ask to speak with a sex crimes detective, or a child molestation crimes detective.

I don't know how large the city, or area is, but the cops will know.
If you start at the wrong department, again, the cops know what to do.

In the meantime, call the school tomorrow and tell them the child may have been harmed.
Advise the PRINCIPAL, or vice principal ONLY that you are taking the kid to examined by a physician, and to meet with the police.

If you wish, simply say the kid has a medical appointment and will be out of school on Thursday, then hot foot over to police department and get the investigation started.

Again, don't say anything about any of this to anyone, but the police and medical personnel.

Let us know what happens, please.

 

[ElleMD]

So, when the mother if this child who *may* have had his picture taken asked the child if he in fact, did have his picture taken, what did the child say?

Kids, especially boys, wrestle and climb on one another. Three brothers and worked with kids for over 20 years. Heck, my brothers are well into adulthood, with professional jobs, advanced degrees, spouses and families and still aren't above the occasional rough housing.It is what they do, gay, straight, and otherwise. 11 year olds are also very curious about sexuality. Whether it is sneaking a peek at a Playboy, or going to one of a million websites, or watching late night Cinemax, it is perfectly normal. It is up to the parents to provide guidance, answer questions, and set limits. If parental supervision is not as stringent in a particular home as you would have in yours, do not accept invitations for your child to visit that home. If you wish to still foster the friendship between the children, host the other child at your home or at neutral locations like parks, movies, mini-golf, etc. Talk to your own child about your family's values, what is and is not appropriate viewing material, how to handle peer pressure, and his continued friendship with these other kids.

If you have an issue with the behavior of another child, talk to the parents. The school is not there to referee. If an incident happened at the school, certainly address it with the teacher or administration but they are not responsible for what happens at a slumber party. I am not sure what you consider appropriate action over the laptop, but student discipline is a confidential matter. My Dad was in IT for a school system for many, many years. While he did his best to block material not appropriate for school, the little devils were geniuses at figuring out hacks to get around whatever measures were in place.

By all means if your child tells you he was actually molested or is experiencing distress over what he has seen or has been done to him, by all means, escalate the situation to the appropriate authorities and get your child into counseling. You just don't want to go in guns a-blazing over what is normal behavior for curious adolescents. You also aren't going to have any legal remedies. While parents who regularly expose children to pornographic material can be charged with any number of things, a couple kids sneaking a salacious video when the parents think they are in the rec room watching sports is not in the same ballpark. Molesting a child, even if done by a child can and should carry serious consequences, but kids have been playing "doctor" and piling on the first to fall asleep at a sleep over since the dawn of time.