fighting4mykid
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There are 2 issues I want to address here.
I started dating my boyfriend in May 2008. I have 4 kids, 26, 19, 17, and 14. When our relationship started my 19 yo lived with his Dad and my two younger ones lived with me. My boyfriend has an 11yod. He has 50/50 custody. I had only been divorced one month and he had been divorced since 2004 when we started dating. We both had excellent relationships with our kids.
He had 50/50 custody with no child support. The AG started sending letters saying he owed more than $18000.00. He has papers saying he does not but we did not find them until after going to court; we will bring them up in the current case. Most of it was dropped but he is still being held liable for $3600 that was owed from the first year that his child was secreted from him and he never even saw her. He is the one who filed for parentage. He is now paying back and current child support and still has 50/50 custody.
In September CPS began calling and stopping by non-stop. My boyfriend's daughter told him that her mom is the one that called them. She told him her momma talks bad about him all the time. It was obvious from the accusations because they all are indicitive of the relationship they had when they were married.
The biggest accusation is drinking and driving with the children in the car. We do drink beer but always take precautions ahead of time. We either don't drive, don't drink, one of us drinks and the other doesn't or we make sure our kids have a ride. All they have is "accusations".
CPS claims he has a "history" of alcohol abuse, domestic violence, and drinking and driving with children in the car. Yet there are no records of any of the above. The "mom" has 7 open CPS cases against her including all of the above as well as assault on a minor, drug usage, DWI while 8 mths pregnant and my boyfriend's daughter being born with alcohol, THC and anti-depressants in her system. The mom listed father unknown on the birth certificate. This is after she listed him as the father to adopt the child out before she was even born; thus the reason for fighting to prove parentage.
To make a long story short; her first attempt was to raise child support when it was only set in October. Then she asked for mediation to only make one offer of terminate parental rights with no child support. (ALL previous court battles have asked for sole custody, no visitation; from Day 1--we have documented proof of this pattern of her trying to keep her from her father)
Now she is doing it again but she has his daughter involved. Stating things that are absolutely not true. After reviewing Parential Alienation we are sure that is exactly what is going on. Can anyone tell me where to find a counselor who specializes in recognizing this syndrome?
The other "problem" is my daughter whom gave a glowing and TRUE report of our living circumstances got angry at me after being caught numerous times breaking curfew, sneaking out etc and follow through of punishment. Her father allowed her to move in with him. He has the same attorney as my boyfriend's ex-wife.
The dilema here: The ex-wife went to the legal assistant and explained why she wanted to hire the attorney. This legal assistant informed this "new" client that the office had another client who could offer helpful information; to have CPS contact her and she would put them in contact with my daughter and my ex-husband (client from another case). CPS did contact this assistant and she gave them the information to speak with my daughter and ex-husband. Is there not some breech of confidentiality here? I could understand if they felt there was a need to report abuse; they would do that directly to CPS; which they did not. But to share that information with another client?
My daughter changed her story so she could move out and live with her Dad whom is seldom home due to his work schedule to get back to having that freedom she had before my boyfriend and I get together.
My boyfriend has run a successful business for 6 years. He speaks with a Texan accent and CPS has a definite bias towards him with statements such as he only has a 7th grade education and his statement has wording typed out leaving the g's off the ing words or adding an apostophe etc. (hillybilly/hickesh) And again repeatedly says he has a history of this abuse; yet there is no records against him only accusations but tons against her that they obviously didn't research; even to the child being born with alcohol and drugs in her system. She stated no on the intake yet it's in the records. But they speak highly of her; how she is a college graduate, well-dressed, tearful when thinking of ex-husband driving in the car with her daughter etc.
I will be glad to offer more information if needed but didnt want to make it any longer than it already is.
I started dating my boyfriend in May 2008. I have 4 kids, 26, 19, 17, and 14. When our relationship started my 19 yo lived with his Dad and my two younger ones lived with me. My boyfriend has an 11yod. He has 50/50 custody. I had only been divorced one month and he had been divorced since 2004 when we started dating. We both had excellent relationships with our kids.
He had 50/50 custody with no child support. The AG started sending letters saying he owed more than $18000.00. He has papers saying he does not but we did not find them until after going to court; we will bring them up in the current case. Most of it was dropped but he is still being held liable for $3600 that was owed from the first year that his child was secreted from him and he never even saw her. He is the one who filed for parentage. He is now paying back and current child support and still has 50/50 custody.
In September CPS began calling and stopping by non-stop. My boyfriend's daughter told him that her mom is the one that called them. She told him her momma talks bad about him all the time. It was obvious from the accusations because they all are indicitive of the relationship they had when they were married.
The biggest accusation is drinking and driving with the children in the car. We do drink beer but always take precautions ahead of time. We either don't drive, don't drink, one of us drinks and the other doesn't or we make sure our kids have a ride. All they have is "accusations".
CPS claims he has a "history" of alcohol abuse, domestic violence, and drinking and driving with children in the car. Yet there are no records of any of the above. The "mom" has 7 open CPS cases against her including all of the above as well as assault on a minor, drug usage, DWI while 8 mths pregnant and my boyfriend's daughter being born with alcohol, THC and anti-depressants in her system. The mom listed father unknown on the birth certificate. This is after she listed him as the father to adopt the child out before she was even born; thus the reason for fighting to prove parentage.
To make a long story short; her first attempt was to raise child support when it was only set in October. Then she asked for mediation to only make one offer of terminate parental rights with no child support. (ALL previous court battles have asked for sole custody, no visitation; from Day 1--we have documented proof of this pattern of her trying to keep her from her father)
Now she is doing it again but she has his daughter involved. Stating things that are absolutely not true. After reviewing Parential Alienation we are sure that is exactly what is going on. Can anyone tell me where to find a counselor who specializes in recognizing this syndrome?
The other "problem" is my daughter whom gave a glowing and TRUE report of our living circumstances got angry at me after being caught numerous times breaking curfew, sneaking out etc and follow through of punishment. Her father allowed her to move in with him. He has the same attorney as my boyfriend's ex-wife.
The dilema here: The ex-wife went to the legal assistant and explained why she wanted to hire the attorney. This legal assistant informed this "new" client that the office had another client who could offer helpful information; to have CPS contact her and she would put them in contact with my daughter and my ex-husband (client from another case). CPS did contact this assistant and she gave them the information to speak with my daughter and ex-husband. Is there not some breech of confidentiality here? I could understand if they felt there was a need to report abuse; they would do that directly to CPS; which they did not. But to share that information with another client?
My daughter changed her story so she could move out and live with her Dad whom is seldom home due to his work schedule to get back to having that freedom she had before my boyfriend and I get together.
My boyfriend has run a successful business for 6 years. He speaks with a Texan accent and CPS has a definite bias towards him with statements such as he only has a 7th grade education and his statement has wording typed out leaving the g's off the ing words or adding an apostophe etc. (hillybilly/hickesh) And again repeatedly says he has a history of this abuse; yet there is no records against him only accusations but tons against her that they obviously didn't research; even to the child being born with alcohol and drugs in her system. She stated no on the intake yet it's in the records. But they speak highly of her; how she is a college graduate, well-dressed, tearful when thinking of ex-husband driving in the car with her daughter etc.
I will be glad to offer more information if needed but didnt want to make it any longer than it already is.
