Overwhelmed.

[Kibo]

I'm a male, with full custody of my child. It started as split custody until mom decided to take off for a few months without an address and I promptly acquired full custody because she abandoned us and gave me the opening to do that. At the moment, there is no mention of any sort of visitation, whatsoever. I have allowed her to see and to talk to him because that is the right thing to do and until she began saying questionable things to him, it remained the right thing to do.

She disappeared again for a few months without any contact, whatsoever and I actually stopped answering my phone for her because she never wanted to talk to our child or to have anything to do with him. Her only concern was harassing me. This morning, my child answered my cell phone (which tells me he wants to talk to mommy, again. I was hoping that would never happen but so be it) and mommy proceeded to tell him that he needs to come live with her because Daddy is a filthy heathen and he will go to hell if he stays, here.

Multiple times, she has "Served" me with fake court papers that looked as if they were typed up in MSword and were usually signed

"Sincerely,
The County Courthouse"

She has threatened to call the police on me multiple times and has called the police a few times, claiming that I've molested my son with no reason or proof to back herself up.

I am posting this in the hopes that someone has some insight or some advice as to how to deal with her. I am not bringing anything to court because I have no reason to and I really don't care if she gives any support and somehow, I doubt she's going to take anything to court because she is entirely financially dependent on a man who makes eight dollars an hour. However, I am curious as to what legal action she can take against me, if any?

I am hoping, if she does take anything to court, she won't be able to get any unsupervised time with him.

I do firmly believe she has some sort of mental issue and due to her history of abusive boyfriends, I would not be surprised if she has some sort of brain damage. Her actions are completely irrational.

I also have my issues. I suffer from multiple severe anxiety disorders and am on quite a medication cocktail in order to deal with them. Would that hurt me in court? My issues are severe enough to get disability.

I am, however, more financially stable than mom by a landslide.

Even if she does not take this to court (and the chances are, she won't), how can I balance my child's desire to have contact with his mother and his mother's irrational behavior and damaging tongue?

 

[army judge]

The next time she attempts to "serve" you with her "fake" papers, you should call the police.

You need to get her illicit and fraudulent efforts documented.

Your medical issues should have no impact on your ability to parent.

You are addressing your problems with medical assistance.

You should contact your attorney (or do it yourself) and get a protective order against this creature.

Your attempt to 'do the right thing" is in contravention of court orders.

Do not permit that to happen anymore.

You do recognize what that has wrought upon you and your child?

In the future, permit no more visits, unless they are court ordered.

You do not want this unstable woman in your life.

If you continue to allow this, you'll have BIG problems to address.

Keep your child safe, and away from this woman!

 

[Kibo]

Accusations

Are the police obligated to investigate everything she calls in? She's threatening to accuse me of homicide.

I do honestly believe she's acquired brain damage. She was an entirely different person when he was conceived and has suffered severe head trauma, since then.

I should add: Its been quite a while since I last allowed her to talk to him. It was before I acquired full custody. She's still consistently harassing us, even though I haven't acknowledged her in months. I have a collection of recorded voicemails and other such ramblings from her, as well as four "Court orders," she's given me, which insisted that I'd be arrested immediately if I didn't surrender the child.

 

[army judge]

Are the police obligated to investigate everything she calls in? She's threatening to accuse me of homicide.

I do honestly believe she's acquired brain damage. She was an entirely different person when he was conceived and has suffered severe head trauma, since then.

The police do what they do.

Yes, they are obligated to investigate crimes and allegations of crimes.

The police try to keep the peace.

You'd be better served to have no contacts with this woman.

She has problems that will only bring you trouble.

You'd be better off building a life for yourself and your child.

Stop communicating with this woman, if she behaves as you claim.

And, if I were you, I'd take all of those crazy, pretend "court orders" to the police, along with any other threats.

The woman appears to have severe issues.

 

[Kibo]

I'm not arguing that. I have made no attempt to communicate with her whatsoever. She comes to me. You can trust that I'm not innitiating contact.

If she actually files for visitation, is there any chance that she will get it? I'd actually much prefer not to interact with her at all and likewise, I'd prefer to keep my child away from her but I am very afraid that she'll file for and get visitation. The people around her are crazy enough to help her but fortunately, they aren't financially stable enough to do so.

 

[army judge]

I'm not arguing that. I have made no attempt to communicate with her whatsoever. She comes to me. You can trust that I'm not innitiating contact.

If she actually files for visitation, is there any chance that she will get it? I'd actually much prefer not to interact with her at all and likewise, I'd prefer to keep my child away from her but I am very afraid that she'll file for and get visitation. The people around her are crazy enough to help her but fortunately, they aren't financially stable enough to do so.

If it were me, I'd never respond to her.
If she appeared on my property, I just wouldn't answer the door.
If she persisted, I'd call the police.
This is reminiscent of stimulus and response.
She stimulates you, you respond.
The cycle won't stop, until you stop responding.
The stimulus extinguishes, when the response stops.
Don't worry about what she might do, just live your life.
You have a court order that grants you sole custody.

She can do nothing to you and your son, unless you interact with her.

 

[Kibo]

It would put my mind entirely at ease to know if she'd have a chance at visitation. It was never necessarily denied, moreso, overlooked. We've never even been through a custody trial. It started out with both of us and it was only altered once, when she wasn't in court.

Based on what you've seen, would she be granted any sort of visitation?

What does it take to get a restraining order?

 

[army judge]

It would put my mind entirely at ease to know if she'd have a chance at visitation. It was never necessarily denied, moreso, overlooked. We've never even been through a custody trial. It started out with both of us and it was only altered once, when she wasn't in court.

Nevertheless, you have custody, and from what you say it is legal.

Based on what you've seen, would she be granted any sort of visitation?

From what you've said, no. But, stranger things have happened.

What does it take to get a restraining order?

You need to tell the things you've said here to a judge in your city.