seffysmiles
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Husband lives in il.
Husband's ex lives in IA.
Ok, before me the ex and my husband were together sort of, for a period of 6months during which she got pregnant. She was constantly going from michigan to illinois and back again during the time they were together. He found out she was with another man during the same time she got pregnant, but she told him the baby was his. However she moved back to michigan roughly 8 hours from where he lived. He told her to take him to court to get support, and she told him no. He tried to convince her to do this so she'd get some money and medical for the kid. She wouldn't, just kept telling him to stay out of their lives. She called him after the baby was born, and he went to see her when she was about a month old, at a motel he was staying at. She drove to him, not letting him know where they were living. Just that she was living with an old ex boyfriend (who turned into hubby #1). He was never allowed a number, she would block it when she called him. He went up to see her again a few months later when he could afford the drive and the same conditions applied. This time he was allowed to buy her clothes and formula. She told him she never mentioned his name to anyone. He tried again to get her to take him to court. She refused, again. When I came into the picture she told him to stay out of their lives and she quit calling him. He had no way to contact her. Now she lives with hubby #2 in IA and the courts in IL are taking him to court for back child support, current child support and paternity testing. He says he's about 85% sure the kid is his but now she is 4yrs old and knows Hubby#2 as daddy. She called a couple months ago and wanted him to sign on as dad then off giving hubby #2 option to adopt her. Can he do this? Can he get out of any back child support? Husband works alot so I'm trying to help with info. Husband really wouldn't care if he had to pay support, cause then he could have the right to actually see her and be around her but she already knows and loves the guy she calls daddy and my husband doesn't want to confuse her. Any info would be great. Thanks.
Husband's ex lives in IA.
Ok, before me the ex and my husband were together sort of, for a period of 6months during which she got pregnant. She was constantly going from michigan to illinois and back again during the time they were together. He found out she was with another man during the same time she got pregnant, but she told him the baby was his. However she moved back to michigan roughly 8 hours from where he lived. He told her to take him to court to get support, and she told him no. He tried to convince her to do this so she'd get some money and medical for the kid. She wouldn't, just kept telling him to stay out of their lives. She called him after the baby was born, and he went to see her when she was about a month old, at a motel he was staying at. She drove to him, not letting him know where they were living. Just that she was living with an old ex boyfriend (who turned into hubby #1). He was never allowed a number, she would block it when she called him. He went up to see her again a few months later when he could afford the drive and the same conditions applied. This time he was allowed to buy her clothes and formula. She told him she never mentioned his name to anyone. He tried again to get her to take him to court. She refused, again. When I came into the picture she told him to stay out of their lives and she quit calling him. He had no way to contact her. Now she lives with hubby #2 in IA and the courts in IL are taking him to court for back child support, current child support and paternity testing. He says he's about 85% sure the kid is his but now she is 4yrs old and knows Hubby#2 as daddy. She called a couple months ago and wanted him to sign on as dad then off giving hubby #2 option to adopt her. Can he do this? Can he get out of any back child support? Husband works alot so I'm trying to help with info. Husband really wouldn't care if he had to pay support, cause then he could have the right to actually see her and be around her but she already knows and loves the guy she calls daddy and my husband doesn't want to confuse her. Any info would be great. Thanks.