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My German wife wants divorce, we have 2 bi-national children, and I am unemployed. I refuse divorce.

Discussion in 'Divorce, Separation, Annulment' started by Christopherstclairjones, Jun 20, 2016.

  1. Christopherstclairjones

    Christopherstclairjones Law Topic Starter Guest

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    I'm an American. My wife is German. Our children are bi-nationals. My wife abandoned me in Louisiana and took our children back to Germany in 2011. She had gotten a ticket from her parents without telling me and gave me an ultimatum. I relented. I followed her in December, months later, that year. Years passed and she decides to d ivorce me suddenly - leaving an answering machine message from her parent's house with the children - having gone to visit just for the weekend, as often before. She lied to me about coming to America from the beginning, and I went to Germany. Then she decided to go to America, then abandoned me there and took our children. I love our children. I do not want divorce. She is always getting her way and never keeps her promises. She wants me to leave the house, but I have nowhere to go. I'm not violent, but we have loudly argued many times. She is mentally unbalanced in my opinion. What can I do?
     
  2. cbg

    cbg Super Moderator

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    If she wants a divorce, she's going to get one. I don't think there's any way the law is going to force her to remain married to you if she doesn't want to be.It may take longer than if you cooperate but make no mistake, it's going to happen. The answer to "what can I do" in that case can only be, Get a good attorney.
     
  3. Christopherstclairjones

    Christopherstclairjones New Member

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    I want to know if she can just throw me out on the street.
     
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    adjusterjack Super Moderator

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    Anywhere in the US she can seek temporary possession of the house and a restraining order (if necessary) to put you out.

    If you are still residing in Germany with her, I don't know, she may just be able to have the authorities take you out and shoot you. (Sorry, WWII joke, couldn't resist.)

    Really, wherever you are, you'd better get a job now, and be prepared for the inevitable.
     
  5. Christopherstclairjones

    Christopherstclairjones New Member

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    Well, I worked in Halle for an ESL company. Maybe they want me back.
     
  6. army judge

    army judge Super Moderator

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    I suspect in Germany, SUSPECT being the operative word, that in Germany she CAN throw you out like garbage; because she did.
     
  7. Christopherstclairjones

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    She is at her parents and sprung this on me with no warning. I am in the house. She just told me in a phone message she hopes I am not there when she comes back. I have nowhere to go.
     
  8. Christopherstclairjones

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    I suspect you think I'm some violent wife-beater. You couldn't be more wrong. She is probably bi-polar, and has the most terrible temper. She goes nuts and screams at our children every weekend, and goes bonkers like clockwork every month. She has had female cycle problems since before I met her. She is in the area now because she took the kids backpacks with her. She thinks she can force me to do her bidding or she threatens divorce.

    I thought this was a forum for legal advice internationally, but it seems no one knows the law in Germany.
     
  9. army judge

    army judge Super Moderator

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    We focus on US law, because we're too uninformed to know about other nations.

    I don't judge mate.

    Had you never mentioned the incidents, I would have not known.

    I do know all people have disagreements, some argue, some fight, and some pound the snot out of one or both parties.

    I still don't judge, because when one (or both) grow weary, sooner or later, both parties figure it out.


    If you are married, I suspect you can stay, even in Germany.

    If you can't pay the rent, I suspect you'll be forced to leave, or the landlord will evict you.

    I never stay where I'm not wanted, mate.
     
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    Christopherstclairjones New Member

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    My children want me, "mate". You do judge, unjustly.
     
  11. army judge

    army judge Super Moderator

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    Well, hire a German lawyer and direct the lawyer to "make it happen" for you, dude.

    A loser in the USA, that would be me, my dude; is as useful for you as a dead donkey.
     

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