My children are in State (SC) Custody

[Jamella]

Huuhh Okay I'm going to try and sum almost 3 years in to words on paper. I am a Loving along with hurting & mourning mother. I had 2 babies that passed away in 1 year. The time my baby was submitted to the hospital my 2 oldest children were taken. Shortly after that after delivering a baby girl she was taken straight from the hospital. Immediately I had to worry about my baby on life support, my children's well being and the list of the things I had to do to get my children back. Not to mention marital & family problems as well. I did eleminate what I could but some things couldn't just go away so easily. No matter what I did (graduated parenting classes -4xs some voluntarily some regular classes and others for ADHD classes. They were diagnosed with ADHD 1/2yr later-, grief counciling, therepy, getting a new home, car, furthering my education -in which I had to pay for everything with no help) it wasn't good enough. I understand DSS concern with 2 babies passing away... They're "My BABIES!" of course, it was a tragedy! Something I'll never forget. I love my children. If there was an organ or something in my body I could give them, even if it means I wouldn't live I would do it! Everybody I knew when I was small is here now. My children were the first two funerals I've ever been to. Anyway, I feel when you see a parent trying and loving and putting so much effort to get what needs to be done, done. Give that parent a chance. My children have been to 9 different foster homes abused in most, highly medicated with sleeping pills, ADHD medication, depression meds and probably more. What future will my children have now. How will I protect them. DSS employees take things too personal. Dealing with a case that involves the death of an infant automatically gives them a bias look on me. I was promised so many things. I ended up loosing my rights and desparately need to fight back. I am in the process for an appeal but every thing has got to be right I need help. I feel as though I'm not well heard. My children's father won with my youngest child however he has a childs mind of his own. He drives around with her at all times of nighly hours, he teaches her to swear, she gets bumps and bruises and he dosen't know where they came from. He still shops at Toys R Us.... For him self. Just yesterday he asked me to buy him a toy. He's sweet father however children needs grounds, rules, regulations curfews. He even testified in court he never woke up for the children it was always me. I was the provider for the house hold as well. Some one anyone do you have any resources? Is it a possibility of me ever seeing my children again.

 

[army judge]

I'm shocked by your loss of your two babies.
May they forever rest in peace.
May you, one day get solace and peace in their tragic and early demise.

You should have great hope in one day getting your babies back.
Just take it slow and easy.
Do what the authorities tell you.
They are in control today.
One day soon, you may be back in command of your life.
Until that day, work the program, do the hard stuff, follow their rules, and the reward will be your kids reunited with you, their loving mommy.

When things get tough, look at their pictures and say this mantra, "Hang on mommy's sweet babies, Mommy's coming to rescue you, soon!"

Then keep doing the hard work, complete all their programs, jump their hurdles, and victory will one day be yours!

 

[BayState]

Huuhh Okay I'm going to try and sum almost 3 years in to words on paper. I am a Loving along with hurting & mourning mother. I had 2 babies that passed away in 1 year. The time my baby was submitted to the hospital my 2 oldest children were taken. Shortly after that after delivering a baby girl she was taken straight from the hospital. Immediately I had to worry about my baby on life support, my children's well being and the list of the things I had to do to get my children back. Not to mention marital & family problems as well. I did eleminate what I could but some things couldn't just go away so easily. No matter what I did (graduated parenting classes -4xs some voluntarily some regular classes and others for ADHD classes. They were diagnosed with ADHD 1/2yr later-, grief counciling, therepy, getting a new home, car, furthering my education -in which I had to pay for everything with no help) it wasn't good enough. I understand DSS concern with 2 babies passing away... They're "My BABIES!" of course, it was a tragedy! Something I'll never forget. I love my children. If there was an organ or something in my body I could give them, even if it means I wouldn't live I would do it! Everybody I knew when I was small is here now. My children were the first two funerals I've ever been to. Anyway, I feel when you see a parent trying and loving and putting so much effort to get what needs to be done, done. Give that parent a chance. My children have been to 9 different foster homes abused in most, highly medicated with sleeping pills, ADHD medication, depression meds and probably more. What future will my children have now. How will I protect them. DSS employees take things too personal. Dealing with a case that involves the death of an infant automatically gives them a bias look on me. I was promised so many things. I ended up loosing my rights and desparately need to fight back. I am in the process for an appeal but every thing has got to be right I need help. I feel as though I'm not well heard. My children's father won with my youngest child however he has a childs mind of his own. He drives around with her at all times of nighly hours, he teaches her to swear, she gets bumps and bruises and he dosen't know where they came from. He still shops at Toys R Us.... For him self. Just yesterday he asked me to buy him a toy. He's sweet father however children needs grounds, rules, regulations curfews. He even testified in court he never woke up for the children it was always me. I was the provider for the house hold as well. Some one anyone do you have any resources? Is it a possibility of me ever seeing my children again.

First I would like to express my deepest sympathies on the loss of your children. I am truly sorry...

Can you please clarify the official cause of death of both children? Also what was the official reason that your parental rights were terminated?

 

[Duranie]

I am also sorry to hear about the death of your children.

There are alot of unanswered questions though in your post. What caused the death of the babies? Obviously DSS feels that there are some risks/issues with your life and house. As far as the father getting custody, if you cannot prove neglect or abuse by him, then you probably have no chance at getting custody back. 2 babies have died while in your care and it appears DSS is obviously concerned. Toddlers get bumps and bruises. My 2 yr old is an accident waiting to happen.

So is the DSS case still open or is it closed? Do you get visitation with this child or did DSS terminate your rights?