my childhood adoption

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cken

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I'm now 32, and my last name was changed during adoption proceedings after my mother divorced, then re-married about 22 years ago. My mother no longer carries the name of the man she married (probably since I was 12?), and my stepfather is no longer alive. Anyway, to make a long story as short as I can, I agreed to take on the last name in my youth as it was my mothers will. I never wanted the last name, and have only carried it for so long now because any effort to find out how to change it back has proved futile. That, and I was told that the court records were sealed by the judge. I'm about to marry, and I seriously want to reclaim my heritage so I can pass it on to my own 2 children.
I scoured over the yrs for an answer, but that led to nothing. And I've only been afforded the plethora of information offered on the internet for maybe the last 4 yrs. I would highly appreciate any help in this matter. I'm desperate. This is a 12 yr relationship involving 2 little ones, and I don't want my earlier family turmoil to create an event where my own children couldn't possibly create a family tree down the road?
The jurisdiction was Binghamton, N.Y.
 
I was also adopted in Florida and after some looking found my birth parents. I did not have the emotional issues about it that you are experiencing but I just wanted to know. I am quite glad I did. My story might help you.

First, if you write the DHR in Florida (the department that handles adoptions) and ask them for your "non-identifying" information, they will send you all the information about your past that they can. You might actually find something in their that is helpful, I did.

What is it you are looking for? You want to find your bio parents? It would seem that you would know the last name. Why is your mother not a help in this? I don't really understand the issue. Can you explain.
 
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