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Jesskullerkeks
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Hello guys (sorry for the long post)
I have dual citizenship (German- american), born in the U.S. but I basically grew up in Germany. I decided that I wanted to spend some time in my dad's home country and find a job and live here for a while. I married an American and got pregnant. Soon after the pregnancy started he started to get abusive (it started after the marriage and got way worse), he verbally and emotionally abused me and physically abuses his daughter from a former girlfriend. I left him and am staying at a shelter right now. I am scared of him finding me, I am going to call cps on him for his daughter but I have a different question.
I want to go back to Germany where the support for single mothers is way better than in the US. And where I don't have to worry about my childs safety if i leave it with the father. The father knows that I am going to leave but not when since I am scared about what he would do to me. I asked a lawyer if i should file for a TRO but she said better not, because if they find out I am pregnant that could leave me with a court order to stay in the US.
I am trying to tell my husband to get professionell help but he refuses to see that he's doing anything wrong. Until he gets help I don't want him to be near this baby by himself.
What is the custody going to be like if the baby is born in Germany? Since we are still technically married, is it gonna get American citizenship? I want to file for divorce and for sole custody but don't have any written proof of his abuse except for my statements with various counsellors and my stay at the shelter. Also another reason I want to go to Germany is that you can't file for divorce while you are pregnant in the US.
Does anyone know more about the custody and citizenship stuff? I can't be ordered back to the US because of that can I? And since an unborn child technically doesn't have any rights I am not abducting it since it's not here yet.
My whole concern is the safety of this kid. after seeing how my husband treats his daughter I can not let him get custody of any kind with this kid.
Thanks for advice and knowledge,
Jess
I have dual citizenship (German- american), born in the U.S. but I basically grew up in Germany. I decided that I wanted to spend some time in my dad's home country and find a job and live here for a while. I married an American and got pregnant. Soon after the pregnancy started he started to get abusive (it started after the marriage and got way worse), he verbally and emotionally abused me and physically abuses his daughter from a former girlfriend. I left him and am staying at a shelter right now. I am scared of him finding me, I am going to call cps on him for his daughter but I have a different question.
I want to go back to Germany where the support for single mothers is way better than in the US. And where I don't have to worry about my childs safety if i leave it with the father. The father knows that I am going to leave but not when since I am scared about what he would do to me. I asked a lawyer if i should file for a TRO but she said better not, because if they find out I am pregnant that could leave me with a court order to stay in the US.
I am trying to tell my husband to get professionell help but he refuses to see that he's doing anything wrong. Until he gets help I don't want him to be near this baby by himself.
What is the custody going to be like if the baby is born in Germany? Since we are still technically married, is it gonna get American citizenship? I want to file for divorce and for sole custody but don't have any written proof of his abuse except for my statements with various counsellors and my stay at the shelter. Also another reason I want to go to Germany is that you can't file for divorce while you are pregnant in the US.
Does anyone know more about the custody and citizenship stuff? I can't be ordered back to the US because of that can I? And since an unborn child technically doesn't have any rights I am not abducting it since it's not here yet.
My whole concern is the safety of this kid. after seeing how my husband treats his daughter I can not let him get custody of any kind with this kid.
Thanks for advice and knowledge,
Jess