Joint custody but Mother left the state

You need to hire a lawyer to secure sole custody of the child and address the issue of child support.

I wouldn't expect a deadbeat to suddenly become responsible.

Fortunately the mother's abandonment of the child will serve you well.

Good luck raising your child.

 

Petition the court to modify the existing divorce decree in whatever ways are appropriate based on the changed circumstances.

 

You need to seek legal counsel not a website

 

She could turn this against you.

You are BOTH violating the existing court order.

If either of you or both of you wish to ALTER the existing order, you must do so legally.

You can BOTH agree to a change, but you then must go back to court to make sure the change is legal.

Judges encourage divorced parents to work out their differences, so getting a judge to approve your changes would be easy.

You simply draft the proposed order and you both go to court to seek the judge's approval.

If you continue to make changes, implement those changes, and NOT seek the court's approval; you BOTH risk incurring the wrath of the judge.

I suggest you reduce your THREE petitions to ONE petition containing all three items.

If you BOTH agree, you should have no trouble obtaining the judge's NEW approved court order.

 

Use the court approved means to serve

 

If drafted, served, and argued properly; you're likely to prevail.

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The state rarely allows anyone to escape paying child support, even if the person was incarcerated.

However, if the Grim Reaper were to come "reaping", the state has to allow the deceased an exemption.

LOL, mate, many have been promised the same thing.

Custody isn't gained because one agrees to pay child support.
The court might see this as a "quid pro quo" which in some matters is acceptable.
In matters concerning children, the court tends to frown upon such agreements.

Alas, nothing from nothing as Billy Preston sang in 1974 said it best:

Nothin' from nothin' leaves nothin'
You gotta have somethin' if you wanna be with me

Nothin' from nothin' leaves nothin'
You gotta have somethin' if you wanna be with me

I'm not tryna be your hero
'Cause that zero is too cold for me, brrr

I'm not tryin' to be your highness
'Cause that minus is too low to see, yeah

Nothin' from nothin' leaves nothin'
And I'm not stuffin', believe you me

Don't you remember I told ya
I'm a soldier in the war on poverty, yeah, yes, I am

Nothin' from nothin' leaves nothin'
You gotta have somethin' if you wanna be with me, oh baby

Nothin' from nothin' leaves nothin'
You gotta have somethin' if you wanna be with me

That's right, ha yeah
Gotta have somethin' if you wanna be with me
You gotta bring me somethin', girl, if you wanna be with me

Good luck mate.

 

Personal service by a process server or law enforcement officer is always the best form of service.

Barring that option, service by registered or certified mail often works, UNLESS the party refuses to accept such service.

If the person has no permanent address, that stymies such efforts.