AVeryGoodMom
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My husband left me at end of August, by end of September was already dating a woman and then was thinking about moving in with her after 2-3 weeks. At end of November he did, and they set up a room for our sons, ages 13 (as of tomorrow) & 16. As their mother, I want to meet and talk to his gf but she refuses, she wants to wait til everything is more "settled" - like when my husband actually decides to serve me with divorce papers. She is also still married and has not served her husband yet either. I believe as their mother I have the right to meet her and find out a little about her if my sons are going to be staying in her house on the weekends my husband is supposed to have them. I'm not looking for anything more than an introduction and small chat so my mind can be put at ease. I realize the marriage is over, I wouldn't want him back anyway as this is the 2nd time he's left me and the first time was because he cheated on me. I've learned my lesson. Anyway, I told him until she can be a grownup about this and meet me face to face, I can't let him keep the kids overnight anymore at her house. Note: he has not yet paid me any child support altho he was paying bills at the house we just sold this month (it was already on the market when he dumped me).
I am not trying to keep him from seeing his sons, his girlfriend is already doing that by telling him he can't come to our youngest son's birthday dinner tomorrow night because it wouldn't be 'appropriate'. He can see them pretty much anytime he wants to. I just don't want them in her house sleeping in the next room over from their father & his gf when I have no idea who she is or what she's like, or if she's a good person.
Do I have the right to do this legally? If I have to go to Family Court I will, but until this all happened recently, he and I were trying to get along & be friends (which apparently the gf doesn't like) and go thru a mediator. Unfortunately, I now seem to be the only parent with any morals left and need to make sure I do right by my sons.
I am not trying to keep him from seeing his sons, his girlfriend is already doing that by telling him he can't come to our youngest son's birthday dinner tomorrow night because it wouldn't be 'appropriate'. He can see them pretty much anytime he wants to. I just don't want them in her house sleeping in the next room over from their father & his gf when I have no idea who she is or what she's like, or if she's a good person.
Do I have the right to do this legally? If I have to go to Family Court I will, but until this all happened recently, he and I were trying to get along & be friends (which apparently the gf doesn't like) and go thru a mediator. Unfortunately, I now seem to be the only parent with any morals left and need to make sure I do right by my sons.