How much trouble will I have with the Grandparents?

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Okay... heres my background.... My wife and I have been married for 2yrs in Feb. We've been having marrital troubles since Feb of last year. Around July of last year she left to live with a "love interest" at the time. Well our son has been living with her grandmother (our son's Great-Grandmother) since Feb of last year (when our troubles started). She moved back in late Jan after things between her and her "boyfriend" went sour. She has since left agian after being caught with someone who was supposed to be a friend of mine. Needless to say I'm fed up with it all and finally going through with the Divoce. My question is how much trouble could I have from her grandparents over getting custody of our son. I help them out as much as I can with things he needs... and see him everyday. But because of my Job schedule its difficult if not almost impossible to keep him at home with me. They've been a great help with him, and really good people all around. But she has trash talked me to them and told them that if I get primary custody, they will never see him agian... Now I think they're gonna try to fight me for custody. And she dont even seem to care if she gets custody or not. As long as I dont... So what should I do.... or expect?
 
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Alabama isn't one of the states that offers many advantages to grandparents over parents when it comes to child custody.

Your situation seems to be amicable.
Your wife has demonstrated poor judgment.
Your rights as father are superior to the child's great-grandparents.
Grandparents could be granted visitation, but not custody under the statute.
As you will see, great-grandparents are not protected by the statute.
The statute is intended for grandparents (parents of the child's parents, only).
I see no reason why you shouldn't be able to work out a mutually agreeable arrangement with the great-grandparents, however.

Speak with a lawyer and get a court order, before its too late.
The sooner you address this through the court, the better off you will be.


Grandparents have the right to visit their grandchildren in Alabama. Any grandparent may file an action to enforce their grandparents visitation rights if the grandparents visitation is in the best interest of the child and one of the following conditions are met:

* One or both parents of the grandchild have died
* The parents of the grandchild have divorced
* A parent of the grandchild has abandoned the child
* The grandchild was born outside a marriage
* If the parents of the grandchild are still married and living together but one or both of the parents are using their authority to prevent a grandparents relationship with their grandchild.

The courts will look to see if a grandparents visitation is in best interest of the child. When determining if a grandparents visitation rights are within the best interest of a child, the courts will look to the following factors for guidance:

* The grandparents willingness to cultivate a relationship with the child and his parents
* The grandchild's preference
* The health of the grandchild
* The mental and physical health of the grandparents
* Any evidence of domestic violence between one parent and another parent, parent and child, or between parent and grandparent
* Any other relevant factors, including the preferences of any living parent

http://www.birminghamdivorceblog.co...ation/alabama-grandparents-visitation-rights/


Here's the Alabama statute governing grandparents' rights to spend time with their grandchildren, Ala. Code §30-3-4.1, amended effective September 1, 2003:

(a) For the purposes of this section, the term grandparent means the parent of a parent of a minor child, the parent of a minor child's parent who has died, or the parent of a minor child's parent whose parental rights have been terminated when the child has been adopted pursuant to Section 26-10A-27, 26-10A-28, or 26-10A-30, dealing with stepparent and relative adoption.

(b) Except as otherwise provided in this section, any grandparent may file an original action for visitation rights to a minor child if it is in the best interest of the minor child and one of the following conditions exist:

(1) When one or both parents of the child are deceased.

(2) When the marriage of the parents of the child has been dissolved.

(3) When a parent of the child has abandoned the minor.

(4) When the child was born out of wedlock.

(5) When the child is living with both biological parents, who are still married to each other, whether or not there is a broken relationship between either or both parents of the minor and the grandparent and either or both parents have used their parental authority to prohibit a relationship between the child and the grandparent.

(c) Any grandparent may intervene in and seek to obtain visitation rights in any action when any court in this state has before it any question concerning the custody of a minor child, a divorce proceeding of the parents or a parent of the minor child, or a termination of the parental rights proceeding of either parent of the minor child, provided the termination of parental rights is for the purpose of adoption pursuant to Sections 26-10A-27, 26-10A-28, or 26-10A-30, dealing with stepparent or relative adoption.

(d) Upon the filing of an original action or upon intervention in an existing proceeding pursuant to subsections (b) and (c), the court shall determine if visitation by the grandparent is in the best interests of the child. Visitation shall not be granted if the visitation would endanger the physical health of the child or impair the emotional development of the child. In determining the best interest of the child, the court shall consider the following:

(1) The willingness of the grandparent or grandparents to encourage a close relationship between the child and the parent or parents.

(2) The preference of the child, if the child is determined to be of sufficient maturity to express a preference.

(3) The mental and physical health of the child.

(4) The mental and physical health of the grandparent or grandparents.

(5) Evidence of domestic violence inflicted by one parent upon the other parent or the child. If the court determines that evidence of domestic violence exists, visitation provisions shall be made in a manner protecting the child or children, parents, or grandparents from further abuse.

(6) Other relevant factors in the particular circumstances, including the wishes of any parent who is living.

(e) The court shall make specific written findings of fact in support of its rulings. An original action requesting visitation rights shall not be filed by any grandparent more than once during any two-year period and shall not be filed during any year in which another custody action has been filed concerning the child. After visitation rights have been granted to any grandparent, the legal custodian, guardian, or parent of the child may petition the court for revocation or amendment of the visitation rights, for good cause shown, which the court, in its discretion, may grant or deny. Unless evidence of abuse is alleged or other exceptional circumstances, a petition shall not be filed more than once in any two-year period.

(f) If the court finds that the grandparent or grandparents can bear the cost without unreasonable financial hardship, the court, at the sole expense of the petitioning grandparent or grandparents, may appoint a guardian ad litem for the minor child.

(g) Notwithstanding the foregoing, a grandparent may not be granted visitation with a grandchild where the parent related to the grandparent has either given up legal custody voluntarily or by court order or has abandoned the child financially unless the grandparent has an established relationship with the child and the court finds that visitation with the grandparent is in the best interest of the child.

http://www.divorceinfo.com/algrandparents.htm
 
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thanks

I greatly appreciate the advice. That really settles my nerves alil. I really want to keep them involved in our son's life. Like I've said they're relly great people all around. And I really appreciate their help and will need the support and help later. So I'm difinately goin to inform them of my true intentions, after seeing my attorney on the matter. And that they are always welcome to be involved. Cause with my ever changing work schedule I know that I'm gonna need a hand with watching him. And with them living so close to my work it will be a much needed relief from the other "stressful" situation with my soon to be ex.
 
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