I have been dealing with an unstable ex since 2009. Over this time she has made multiple false accusations against me (the father) and now my fiancé and children. Over this time she has put in three petitions for orders of protection. The orders were filed with insane allegations that included: I have multiple identities and SS#s, she is afraid I will cut her steering column and brakes, I have hacked into her computer and phone, I have broken into her home, I have stolen her IRS treasury check, I'm being investigated by the FBI and Treasury department, etc.. I had to go to court and fight all three OPDs and won so they never became Orders of Protection. During one of the Petitions she went to the Chicago PD and said I violated it because I ran into her at a store. They arrested me and I had the fight criminal charges in court which I won. Now she has targeted my fiancé and children. She filed a report with DCFS that one of the kids sexually abused my daughter (who is 9). The child she accused was 12 and also a girl. DCFS investigated and it was cleared as unfounded. She continues to try to get me in trouble any way she can. She now tells me she has 4 different agencies investigating me.....for what I have no idea. She doesn't care as long as she can make my life miserable. She has my daughter call my family (Mother, Father, Brothers and Sisters) and tell them that I am a bad father and trying to hurt them. She has left crazy drunk, obscenity laced emails and texts to me. To add to the embarrassment, I had put my ex on a blocked persons list at my work because she was trying to contact them as well. I am worried first and foremost about the impact this has on my daughter being forced to go through this. I fear for her long term mental well being,
At this point, the stress is incredible on everyone as we are always afraid she will file more allegations against the kids and my fiancé. My daughter is with me every Thursday night and every other weekend. How do I protect everyone to prevent these allegations from continuing. This is no way to live walking on egg shells and is not healthy for anyone. How do I get this behavior stopped and protect all from this insanity? I have been in the courts for years. The judges don't seem to care. I even had a child rep appointed who has been completely unengaged and been a non-factor in helping. I did speak with DCFS and CASA. Both said to fire the child rep but offered no guidance on preventative measures to address my ex's behavior.
I am at the end of my rope. Judges, Lawyers and Child Rep (also a lawyer) don't seem to want to get involved which is very odd. It seems as if there is no immediate physical danger to my daughter then they don't want to deal with it. The emotional and mental toll it is taking on us is enormous. The 2 girls and my fiancé are now terrified when my daughter stays over. I don't want this environment for my daughter or anyone. What do I do at this point just take it? I have never retaliated. I can take the abuse hurled at me but I can't for the other people in my life. How do I protect everyone involved?
At this point, the stress is incredible on everyone as we are always afraid she will file more allegations against the kids and my fiancé. My daughter is with me every Thursday night and every other weekend. How do I protect everyone to prevent these allegations from continuing. This is no way to live walking on egg shells and is not healthy for anyone. How do I get this behavior stopped and protect all from this insanity? I have been in the courts for years. The judges don't seem to care. I even had a child rep appointed who has been completely unengaged and been a non-factor in helping. I did speak with DCFS and CASA. Both said to fire the child rep but offered no guidance on preventative measures to address my ex's behavior.
I am at the end of my rope. Judges, Lawyers and Child Rep (also a lawyer) don't seem to want to get involved which is very odd. It seems as if there is no immediate physical danger to my daughter then they don't want to deal with it. The emotional and mental toll it is taking on us is enormous. The 2 girls and my fiancé are now terrified when my daughter stays over. I don't want this environment for my daughter or anyone. What do I do at this point just take it? I have never retaliated. I can take the abuse hurled at me but I can't for the other people in my life. How do I protect everyone involved?