Okay sorry it seemed like a typo.
What do you mean "I'm not you nor will I actually like you." I never freaking asked you to "like" me. Yes I would be thinking "Stay the fuck away from the asshole who raped me" if I got raped. I sure as shit would not go over to his house to show him a pregnancy test. In fact, after my ex passed out the first time he hit me, I left his ass in the hotel and went straight to my dad's house. I got a protection order. I stupidly dropped it because I was close to his family, everyone said he was doing better. I didn't want to be awkward and have to leave if he showed up. I was stupid. I didn't plan to get back together with him but then I got pregnant. So I gave him another chance. We moved closer to home. But he was the closer to drugs. Each time he hit me was due to his meth addiction and withdrawals. I finally had enough last year and divorced him. Yeah I gave him another chance after that but I stopped after about March. I only talk to him because we have a child and I bailed him out in March.
Yes I know about how rape affects people. I was a victim advocate in the military for almost 3 years. I had to deal with a lot of cases. I had to be the one to tell the survivors when the case was unsubstantiated and see their face. I had to take them to appointments. To the police station. Be there in their worst moment.
I very highly doubt that a large number of exes are afraid of you. In fact, I almost wonder if you're not making a lot of this up. Maybe not but I'm gathering my suspicions after this comment.
I never said you should be like me or like me as a person. I don't know you. I don't give a shit if you like me at all. I am trying to give you advice and you apparently think you know everything. So you know what go ahead, fuck up your life, your kid's life and when you get raped again, think about how it happened. I don't like to throw out what seems like victim blaming comments but generally most survivors learn their lesson after the first rape and don't go back to their rapist. Yes without a shadow of a doubt if ANYONE raped me you better believe I would NEVER go near that person again. I would call the police. I would make sure they see their day in court and hopefully get locked up. ESPECIALLY after I have seen multiple cases unsubstantiated by civilian police and CID because there wasn't enough physical evidence because someone waited too long to report.
I sure hope you start making some better decisions with your life and really hope you go back to court and fight that order.
And you're never getting in the military if you have that kid unless you sign it over to someone. In all actuality, I would recommend you don't try to enlist.
