We are legal guardians for our grandson. Short story, he was diagnosed ODD when we got him at 5.5, that was 9.5 years ago. I thought it was stress but we worked with the public school and counselors through school based on ODD. He was a good student, talented musician, involved in Scouts(almost Eagle last year), 4H, etc. But he didn't like being told what to do and it got worse as he hit puberty. He was abandoned by his mother at 19 months, beat by 2 stepmothers. He meets the criteria for RAD as well as ODD. He lies, a lot. He thought he could manipulate us into doing what he wanted by using CPS, it didn't happen his way.
That was some of the background. He had 4 placements in 4 months because he kept attempting suicide, or claimed to take pills, in each foster placement. The last placement is his maternal grandmother's sister & brother-in-law, maternal grandmother lived with them at the time. My question, is this just poor parenting or are they doing something illegal? I know they allow him to access porn through Twitter accounts he set up at their place. They also let him play 'shooter' games rated 17+ on his xbox on-line.
They've also punished him for contacting us and made it extremely difficult to allow him to visit his father, our son, for CPS's intentions of unifying our son and GS. Anything we can do about the porn and their interference with reunification attempts?
That was some of the background. He had 4 placements in 4 months because he kept attempting suicide, or claimed to take pills, in each foster placement. The last placement is his maternal grandmother's sister & brother-in-law, maternal grandmother lived with them at the time. My question, is this just poor parenting or are they doing something illegal? I know they allow him to access porn through Twitter accounts he set up at their place. They also let him play 'shooter' games rated 17+ on his xbox on-line.
They've also punished him for contacting us and made it extremely difficult to allow him to visit his father, our son, for CPS's intentions of unifying our son and GS. Anything we can do about the porn and their interference with reunification attempts?