Mooshyshoosh
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Some Facts:
I have had primary physical custody of our three children (ages 13, 10,8) for six years. He has custody every other weekend and every other Wednesday. This arrangement has worked well for the childrens school and social activities.
My Ex is a known abuser. To me, but not the children (physical) I have had PFA's and have a current no contact order. He has harrased me since the seperation, frequently walked in my home unnanounced, stalked me and spread vicious lies. He has verbally and physically abused me in front of the children. I filed no more PFA's and stopped calling the police. Frankly, I just cooperated because I did not feel like having my children see the police every time there was an exchange and he would threaten me and make harrasing phone calls. I was just tired.
I have been living with my Boyfriend for over a year and we plan to get married. We have recently moved into his house. I have my two boys with me, my daughter (13 years old) did not move. She went to stay with her Father in February after her and I had a fight. I can not get her to come back, and her Father will allow only limited communication with her. He is eating it up. He has warned me several times that there will be no other man around his children. Now that I am in a relationship the trouble has increased.
His girlfriend is acting as his paralegal and she is heading his whole custody case. They claim that my boyfriend mistreats my children. There are many times I know my kids are good for story telling for sympathy purposes(as they do when they come back from their father to me) I just chalk it up to kid talk. They maybe do not like me bieng with another man, but he is kind and respectful to them. Their Father has warned them to not respect him, encouraged them to mistreat them. I even found a whole note book full of things (written by my daughter) that they were going to do to get him to leave. I have had it! We are trying to run a household is all. With kids there every day, there are rules and consequences if they do not follow them, such as grounding. I think this is reasonable.
My boyfriend does not yell or discipline them. Now he will barely speak to them because of the problems and brain washing by my ex.
Here is a list of what the EX and his girlfriend are requesting:
Mother is unfit to continue as the parent in primary custody of the three minor children for the following reasons, to wit:
a. Mother currently lives with John Doe
b. Mr. Doe is currently subject to a Protection From Abuse Order issued by this Honorable Court at No. Said Order is for the protection of Mr. Doe's wife, and four children, after severe head trauma was inflicted upon Mrs. Doe
c. Mr. Doe's presence in the mother's household represents mother's bad judgment and disregard for the safety of her children.
d. Recently, mother moved into Mr. Doe's three-bedroom, house which has serious, unsafe structural deficiencies that represent a health hazard to the children.
e. When Mr. Doe's three children, protected in the said PFA Order are free to visit Mr. Doe after October 15, 2009, the house will be overcrowded and present additional unsafe and unhealthy living conditions for the minor children of the parties.
f. Mr. Doe is a recovering drug addict.
g. Mother, ME abuses alcohol.
h. The minor child has Bronchospasm, also known as Reactive Airway Disease and mother's smoking exacerbates the child's condition.
7. Father is gainfully employed and able to provide a safe, loving environment for his children.
8. It is in the best interest and welfare the three minor children of the parties to be in the primary custody of their father
WHEREFORE, defendant-father respectfully requests this Honorable Court to grant an Interim Order providing the following:
a. Immediate removal of the children from mother's residence;
b. Temporary physical custody of the three minor children in the father;
c. In the alternative, removal of John Doe from residence of the minor children;
d. Drug and alcohol testing of the mother, ME and John Doe;
e. Any other relief that the Court deems necessary and proper.
So, I am doing this myself(No money,No LAwyer). Any suggestions? The above are all false claims and can not be proven. My boyfriends PFA is only active because the mother is withholding children from him because she is nuts. Nothing claimed in the PFA was ever proven. I am a sound witness to his whereabouts day and night when she filed it, it was after his first legal visit with the kids was finally allowed. His custody is now bieng settled out of court.
We will both submit to drug tests anytime. My children have not been sick all year. They have not missed any school. The house is safe and has been inspected. I do not abuse alcohol, unless drinking a few beers when I don't have my children is abuse. I do not smoke around the kids. We are both gainfully employed (BF and I(same company for 15 years) and I am a college student. I am actually appaled at this. What would be my best chance to fight this? I am done playing now, and I want my daughter returned and for my EX to have only supervised visits until he finishes an anger management program.
I have had primary physical custody of our three children (ages 13, 10,8) for six years. He has custody every other weekend and every other Wednesday. This arrangement has worked well for the childrens school and social activities.
My Ex is a known abuser. To me, but not the children (physical) I have had PFA's and have a current no contact order. He has harrased me since the seperation, frequently walked in my home unnanounced, stalked me and spread vicious lies. He has verbally and physically abused me in front of the children. I filed no more PFA's and stopped calling the police. Frankly, I just cooperated because I did not feel like having my children see the police every time there was an exchange and he would threaten me and make harrasing phone calls. I was just tired.
I have been living with my Boyfriend for over a year and we plan to get married. We have recently moved into his house. I have my two boys with me, my daughter (13 years old) did not move. She went to stay with her Father in February after her and I had a fight. I can not get her to come back, and her Father will allow only limited communication with her. He is eating it up. He has warned me several times that there will be no other man around his children. Now that I am in a relationship the trouble has increased.
His girlfriend is acting as his paralegal and she is heading his whole custody case. They claim that my boyfriend mistreats my children. There are many times I know my kids are good for story telling for sympathy purposes(as they do when they come back from their father to me) I just chalk it up to kid talk. They maybe do not like me bieng with another man, but he is kind and respectful to them. Their Father has warned them to not respect him, encouraged them to mistreat them. I even found a whole note book full of things (written by my daughter) that they were going to do to get him to leave. I have had it! We are trying to run a household is all. With kids there every day, there are rules and consequences if they do not follow them, such as grounding. I think this is reasonable.
My boyfriend does not yell or discipline them. Now he will barely speak to them because of the problems and brain washing by my ex.
Here is a list of what the EX and his girlfriend are requesting:
Mother is unfit to continue as the parent in primary custody of the three minor children for the following reasons, to wit:
a. Mother currently lives with John Doe
b. Mr. Doe is currently subject to a Protection From Abuse Order issued by this Honorable Court at No. Said Order is for the protection of Mr. Doe's wife, and four children, after severe head trauma was inflicted upon Mrs. Doe
c. Mr. Doe's presence in the mother's household represents mother's bad judgment and disregard for the safety of her children.
d. Recently, mother moved into Mr. Doe's three-bedroom, house which has serious, unsafe structural deficiencies that represent a health hazard to the children.
e. When Mr. Doe's three children, protected in the said PFA Order are free to visit Mr. Doe after October 15, 2009, the house will be overcrowded and present additional unsafe and unhealthy living conditions for the minor children of the parties.
f. Mr. Doe is a recovering drug addict.
g. Mother, ME abuses alcohol.
h. The minor child has Bronchospasm, also known as Reactive Airway Disease and mother's smoking exacerbates the child's condition.
7. Father is gainfully employed and able to provide a safe, loving environment for his children.
8. It is in the best interest and welfare the three minor children of the parties to be in the primary custody of their father
WHEREFORE, defendant-father respectfully requests this Honorable Court to grant an Interim Order providing the following:
a. Immediate removal of the children from mother's residence;
b. Temporary physical custody of the three minor children in the father;
c. In the alternative, removal of John Doe from residence of the minor children;
d. Drug and alcohol testing of the mother, ME and John Doe;
e. Any other relief that the Court deems necessary and proper.
So, I am doing this myself(No money,No LAwyer). Any suggestions? The above are all false claims and can not be proven. My boyfriends PFA is only active because the mother is withholding children from him because she is nuts. Nothing claimed in the PFA was ever proven. I am a sound witness to his whereabouts day and night when she filed it, it was after his first legal visit with the kids was finally allowed. His custody is now bieng settled out of court.
We will both submit to drug tests anytime. My children have not been sick all year. They have not missed any school. The house is safe and has been inspected. I do not abuse alcohol, unless drinking a few beers when I don't have my children is abuse. I do not smoke around the kids. We are both gainfully employed (BF and I(same company for 15 years) and I am a college student. I am actually appaled at this. What would be my best chance to fight this? I am done playing now, and I want my daughter returned and for my EX to have only supervised visits until he finishes an anger management program.
sane men (I'm married to a gem of a human being!). I didn't know that I would become involved & have a child with a Narcissistic Sociopath. Why didn't I see it? Because he is a Narcissistic Sociopath!! They are charming liars & insidious abusers.