Ex-Wife's Live-In Boyfriend Trying to Intimidate Me at Pick-ups and Drop-offs

[klynnchris11]

What recourse do I have in regards to my ex-wife's live in boyfriend? We are currently enthralled in a custody battle, and as of late because things are seeming to lean in my favor, the ex and her boyfriend having been engaging in some "Tactical maneuvers"..per se. This morning for pickup (I NEVER GET OUT OF VEHICLE), my youngest (5yrs) comes out to the vehicle crying. When I ask what was wrong, she says that mom would not let her bring out their new puppy to show me because I would probably beat it and yell at it. Reassuring her that it was ok, and that she knows that I would Never do such a thing, I texted her a quick message while our daughters were getting buckled up. I said do not try to skew our children and alienate them from me with your blasphemy and outright lies. Immediatelly as I am pulling our the driveway, boyfriend runs out with shirt off waving it in the air and motioning me to come back (like he was going to do something). This is at least the 4th occasion where he as tried to intimidate me or provoke me in some manner. I would never engage him as I know that is exactly what they are hoping for. Any suggestions?

 

[Gail_in_Georgia]

Stop writing such inflammatory text messages to the ex-wife and the boyfriend is less likely to run out of the house wanting to punch you in the nose for such a dumb message.

Gail

 

[klynnchris11]

Oh, but telling our 5 yr old that I was going to beat her puppy that's ok, right? Maybe you wouldn't have such an opinion if you knew she was a diagnosed Bi-polar, narcistic disorder crazed who just was released from a non-voluntary admitted stay at psyche ward. But Gail I'm guessing there is quite the possibility that you may just be in that same boat?! It's called P.A.S. and most money grubbing, mentaly ill women turn to it when they feel they are losing control. But thanks for your advice...seems you might have some issues yourself!

 

[Duranie]

How tacky of mom to have a live in boyfriend already and she is not even divorced yet. Nice. Nobody is saying the boyfriend is right just document everything. Do not communicate with the boyfriend. Do you have an attorney? What does he think of moms living situation?

As far as the text..you have to understand that just turning the other cheek instead of texting back nasty messages is not going to help. Let mom and the boyfriend dig their own grave. The kids need at least one stable parent and if mom is a mess, then you need to be the sane one here. i would be having an issue with mom already moving this guy in.

 

[Gail_in_Georgia]

Bub, you married the bi-polar, narcassistic disorder crazy which doesn't say much for your taste in partners to begin with. And the fact that you jump on someone who provides a common sense solution to an idiotic situation doesn't say much for your mental stability either. And, not surprisingly, you guessed inaccurately as to my own mental and financial status.

As Dr. Phil often says when two adults who act as children to one another (often in front of their children, unfortunately), someone has to be the hero here.

Try being the hero instead of fueling the situation....at least for the sake of the children involved in this mess.

Gail

P.S. It would appear from your posting that you and your wife are divorced, correct? Just simply arguing about child custody.

 

[klynnchris11]

This is 3rd live-in boyfriend in the past 9 months. She is 32 he just turned 22. Was arrested for D.D. on her parenting time too. She was with him in the car. Big mess!

 

[army judge]

This is 3rd live-in boyfriend in the past 9 months. She is 32 he just turned 22. Was arrested for D.D. on her parenting time too. She was with him in the car. Big mess!

Okay, here is what you COULD do about this.

Ask the court to arrange for the child "exchanges" to occur at a police station, CPS Office, or Courthouse.

Do NOT go near her home, and do NOT allow her to come near YOUR home.

Ask the court to require ONLY YOU and HER to be present (other than officials) when the child "exchanges" occur.

Otherwise, concentrate ONLY on what you do.

Ignore what she does, unless it endangers your child.

If that happens, report the behavior to the police or the court.

You know her better than any of us.

That said, if she has "mental health" issues, don't play into her them.

You claim to be the "sane" one, so ignore her lapses.

Stop communicating with her, UNLESS it concerns your child.